I'm assuming everyone here has read the DJB. I just finished reading all the books (Pook, WMS, Introductions to the bible etc), and it only took me a couple days. I realize the bible is actually the entire collection of posts that have made it "bible worthy" and is still currently being expanded. Although I have not read all the posts presently in it, I had a question. Albeit I gave the books my full attention and understood everything, I think I might of read it too fast. Do any of you guys feel that? Like you took too much at once and didn't have time to try out everything? This applies to any worthy information. I was more leisurely with myself because I didn't come in here as a total newbie. Anyways, what I'm basically wondering is if you guys feel that you're not using all the information to the fullest, or even forgeting about some (maybe that's what DJ Boot Camp is for).
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Too much, too fast?
- Thread starter The_Guy
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I didn't do the boot camp because I've been trying to get good with girls since I was 15. I just had some AFC tics and sticking points here and there.
I do have to say that if you don't talk to girls for a while, no matter how good you are, you will get rusty. That's why it's important to talk to girls as often as possible.
The boot camp is to get you accustomed to talking to them. You will have to talk to them if you want to really understand what's in the DJB.
I remember when I read it a lot of examples were popping up in my head and I suddenly realised all the AFC mistakes I made in my past. Now I recognise (most of) my mistakes instantly, and they're much less common.
I do have to say that if you don't talk to girls for a while, no matter how good you are, you will get rusty. That's why it's important to talk to girls as often as possible.
The boot camp is to get you accustomed to talking to them. You will have to talk to them if you want to really understand what's in the DJB.
I remember when I read it a lot of examples were popping up in my head and I suddenly realised all the AFC mistakes I made in my past. Now I recognise (most of) my mistakes instantly, and they're much less common.