"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Too Many Fuglies On Match.com???
- Thread starter TooColdUlrick
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
But I am sure that there are some older men out there who have a lot to offer, mature and are worth the time of day cause they no longer need to post on dating forums. Age doesn't men you are mature. There's living proof on this forum.
Its clear that alot of these older guys and guys in general are out for pure sleeze talking about what chick they banged and what chick they hope to bang and what chick to make a f**k buddy.
Just because the world is a mess doesn't mean you have to act accordingly. Sounds like somone is conforming to me. I wouldn't think a DJ conforms and lives his life by the standards of someone else other than his own. So don't pull that mainstream crap here. I guess when homosexuality becomes mainstream (which it just about is) you'll join the gang?
TooColdUlrick
Master Don Juan
nice username, seems appropriate! you sound a tad bitter, jaded, and icy.
anyway, what you said has some truth. some guys are perpetual bachelors, looking only for young puzzy, will never grow up, and never get their shiat together. i have two buds from high school that are like this. each has fukked over 500 chicks. they're pretty pathetic--but would be considered "DJ's" by most on this board--and they're beginning to realize, too late, that they suck.
however, some of us here have "been there, done that" more times than you can count. while it might seem we are looking for pure sleeze, that's not the case. this dude doesn't fukk ho-bags, nor stupid chicks, nor chicks without substance. i actually have criteria.
i don't fukk on the first date, nor the second, nor the third (ok maybe).
one of the chicks i mentioned is so fed up with guys her age, she said to me point blank--I WILL NEVER AGAIN DATE A GUY MY AGE. EVER! i met her off CL (among all the trash).
i would consider her an HB9, and i give "10" to no one, and has a friggin Master's Degree. college degree is a requirement of mine.
guys hit on her and she completely ignores them. they say hi, she walks away without a word. she's brutal but funny as hell. love it. no 25 year old on planet earth has a shot at her. that would include you, drZaius09.
there are a lot of chicks, hot ones, quality ones, out there just like her. but you have to have your shiat together.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
TooColdUlrick
Master Don Juan
then get lost. seriously, what the hell are you here for? to try to set us sleezy old men "straight"? to try to teach us about women?
go to eharmony.com and pick yourself up a nice puppy dog.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Is it just me or does someone sound a bit bitter for some strange reason?
iveyleeger
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<sniff, sniff>
yup, the eggs are rotting
<tick, tick, tick>
I specially like when these biyaatches put "my kids are the world to me" on their profile.
I'm like no sht....I'm sure charles manson's mother feel the same way. Stay away, you'd be instant daddy!
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
TooColdUlrick
Master Don Juan
we will. now shut your pie hole and think about making an appointment with PerfectPaws for that chump you're gonna get from eharmony.
Puppy and Dog Obedience Training
Obedience training is one of the best things you can do for your dog or puppy. It opens a line of communication and is the basis for a happy partnership.
www.perfectpaws.com/whytr.html
guys, you don't walk away from a chick like Oblivious, you RUN! don't look back, you'll turn to salt.
picard
Master Don Juan
TooColdUlrick
Master Don Juan
speaking from experience, i have never found this to be the case as of yet, on pay sites. why would someone pay 20 bucks a month to put up a fake profile?Originally posted by picard
All the online dating sites have fake women profiles. There are only some actual real women. I tried different sites such as yahoo, laval life etc... I now sign on to brick & motar dating agency. They find me real flesh & blood woman instead of cyberchick.
Same reason why 99% of people do business on the internet-- to sell pornography to creepy old men. But I agree with you to a point, these are more prevalent on the "adult" dating sites like AFF. You're probably not going to find too much of this sh1t on match or yahoo or anything like that.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
al77
Master Don Juan
There are tons of reasons why there are many "fake" or dead profiles:
a) websites are interested in having as many profiles as they can get, therefore then dont care to delete dead profiles.
b) some women sign up for free (most sites offer that, you can post free profile, but can't use it since to contcat anyone you have to pay)... hang out there for some time and and decided not to pay anything. If you dont include your email in yoru letter - the profile is "dead" for you. And sometimes the sites attemp to strip off your email address from your first letter.
c) Some women found a guy, but obviously didn't care to hide the profile.
d) some women post a profile purely for ego boost.
Websites just should STOP offering that free profile thing! Becaus eit appears as if they have lot of women, but maybe half of them are not really active due to the reason above.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
TooColdUlrick
Master Don Juan
AFF and Erocity are famous for doing this. i seriously doubt that match and yahoo would do such a thing. way too risky, esp. for the latter company.
al77, what you are mentioning is dead or inactive profiles. they're not "fake" per se.
TooColdUlrick
Master Don Juan
me too.
didn't do a match profile after all, and won't. pleeeeenty of opportunities on myspace, if you know how to play your hand.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.