"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
krasnyiLion
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no one in their right mind will turn some one down , who is " too good" for her or him, think about it..............................see it makes no sence
want to give you a compliment will saying, "thanks but no thanks"
Desdinova
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IMO, this is something that MEN have had programmed into their heads. It's a way they measure themselves up to an attractive woman. The less confident they are, the more they should settle for an ugly b1tch. That's why, when they end up dating a VERY attractive woman, they worship the fvcking ground she walks on.
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krasnyiLion said:
I agree with KrasnyiLion, it's a bullsh*t response, or she's finishing for compliments.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
WRX_is_like_SEX
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Ofcourse you haven't you clown!Desdinova said:
Its not something they will admit to or speak out loud . . .The issue raised is very subtle, and so will be the signals . .But as ever , there is no black and white answer, as expected . . .And its not necessarily always an isue of looks . .
If there is a vast differential in terms of wit, money, intellect, strength of character, confidence . . Quite simply , inspite of initial attraction, a girl may simply be too intimidated to proceed further . . .Quite simply she may feel that the a genuine bond would be difficult to sustain . .
But again, it will vary from one case to another . .The answer is - "It depends" . . .