"Blank Mind on Dates? She's Dropping Hints You Keep Missing"
The plates get cleared and the silence lands like a brick. You can feel her waiting. Your brain offers up your commute, your job, the weather — topics that have ended more second dates than bad breath.
Here's what most guys never learn: women hand out free conversational material all night long. Tiny clues about what they actually want to discuss. Catch them and you never run out of things to say — because she's telling you what to say next.
Rule 4 of the "22 Rules" trains your ear to catch every single one.
Too confident???
- Thread starter Guillain
- Start date
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Serg897
Master Don Juan
Ive tried to tone it down a bit, but not too much.
DJ Alejandro
Senior Don Juan
i know that i am but we're not talking about women here or how i handle them. its cuz i live with the principles that if im not sure with what im gonna say, they i should just shut up. lest i wanna wrongly influence some people's lives one way or another.
i dunno. im not sure cuz the word they use means 'full of himself'. im not even like that. i do what i wanna do. i don't say, 'hey! im cute!' like the other guys they label as the same.
i just dont understand them. i try to calm myself down by telling myself that's its just one of two things:
either im too confident or they're just insecure.
id appreciate if anyone could help me in on this too. maybe its cuz i do well in class and i happen to actually READ???
California Love
Master Don Juan
Confidence is not the same as ****iness. You can be sure of yourself, but don't brag and front too much. Also, its important not to put yourself on the pedestal, pretending you're God's gift to women. Just like us, they appreciate something that acts attainable.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.