Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Tom will have a stable of young HB10s lined up the day his divorce is final.
Getting divorced hurts, that's just a fact of life. Doesn't make you a weenie.The American football GOAT can't be this much of a weenie.
@MatureDJ, It’s time to give a pro quality mentally tough man the respect he has earned …The American football GOAT can't be this much of a weenie.
Agree. Anecdotally, I saw an example of this. One guy I know got divorced. He had a solid salary and possessions. Good social circle too. As soon as word got out in the social sphere about his wife leaving him, multiple women came out of the woodwork to express interest.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I know several guys like this in my current group. The moment they break up, they will have lots of girls going after them. And these guys will not be waiting for long. Their gfs are getting fatter and uglier.
A lot of that is cosmetic work. I'm lazy but there is a timeline collage of photos every year from college to current. Brady when he was a rookie was not that good looking guy he is now and not nearly as fit at lean. It's known that he has seen cosmetic surgeons.
This isn't an ordinary 42 year old woman with 2 children. This is a woman who was an elite supermodel in her 2000s heyday. In her 2000s heyday, this was the kind of woman that @IKO69 could have attracted with the black 911 Carerra 4s he once owned.
As much as I love Brady, she was with DiCaprio before him. I think she is good.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Dude is the embodiment of the American ideal, like he is about as "American" looking as you can get in terms of trying to express the beauty of America to the world. I said ideal, not the average American dude. Dude is America, he could easily run for president one day.
Impressive. Most divorces take somewhere between 3-9 months to complete.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
www.espn.com
It used to be that being divorced was toxic to one's political prospects, either because "if he can't handle his wife, how is he supposed to handle the Ship of State?" or because he is a moral reprobate that can't control himself (at least officially
). Of course, we've had PsOTUS of both parties prove that the latter is no longer an issue. I guess that's a moot point since power is still a "powerful aphrodisiac", and anyone rising to that level will by definition no longer be Incel.
Brady is now a "6 figure" man:
Tom Brady hits 100K passing yards, leads Bucs to last-minute win
Tom Brady on Sunday became the first quarterback in NFL history to reach 100,000 career passing yards and tied Peyton Manning for the most fourth-quarter comebacks by an NFL starting quarterback as he led the Bucs to a last-minute win over the Rams.
Perhaps he will celebrate 100,000 career passing yards by snorting cocaine off of a young supermodel's stomach. He is a free man now with the divorce.
It never gets better either. It's not fun to be shuttled around between two divorced parents.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
