Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Today I turned 20. Give me one piece of advice

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Don't blow it inside a chick. No matter what the circumstances are, it's always better to pull out and blow it all over her, even if it's on her face.
 

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Don't let anyone -- or any woman -- hold you back from chasing what you want most in life. Be it career sucess, fitness success, financial success -- whatever, focus on what matters most of all: YOU. Then everything else will follow in time.
 

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dont get married or have kids
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Put women last on your list of importance ALWAYS. 9/10 all they'll do is hold you back - like a dead weight on your shoulders.

And SIG VVVV
 
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Don't listen to other people's advice. Including mine.
 

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Don't talk so much. A lot of young guys, and I was one of them, come off as spazzes because they're nervous or trying to be funny or trying to qualify themselves. Silence can sometimes be uncomfortable, but embrace it and let the other person be uncomfortable. Let them fill the gaps by yammering on about themselves. It makes you both a good listener and mysterious.

Look at all the cool cowboys in movies. Talk as much and at the same tempo as them.
 

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Applies to women and the world.

Find a skill set they need. And make them pay top dollar for it.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Desdinova said:
The best years of dating happen in your 30s. Use your 20s to focus on getting your life in order.
:up: Counting on that. I've made a lot of sacrifices in my 20s for the sake of pursuing a career where many are called but few are chosen. Only now starting to see progress. All the while many of my friends and cousins have been buying houses - I've gone through periods where I didn't know how I'd make rent. They'd have relatively predictable schedules, travel, and party - I'd spend a lot of my time at home by myself working on my dream and missed out on LOTS of social opportunities. They're all getting married now, feels like there's at least 3 weddings a year lately and more coming...

I am sure there'll be happy and there's nothing wrong with the careers and income they will have to go along with their white picket fences. I've just always had aspirations that go a little higher and have been willing to spend my 20s in the **** so that the rest of my life could be the one I always dreamed of having (or at least come close).

And if it doesn't work out that way I'll just blame SoSuave ;)
 

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The world is never exactly as you see it, changing perspectives might lead to new discoveries.

I lived in a bubble a long time, and it really hurts when reality come crashing down.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Minimize your debt (which will also increase your credit score), invest in equities, and do not get married.
 

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I've got more. Never focus on the obstacles, focus on your goals and deal with problems when they appear. No need to construct problems that doesn't exist yet, this is the safe route which will fvck you up. Figure out where you are, and where you're going from there. If your past is dealt with in a way you're satisfied with, then never look back for anything except useful references to solve problems now.

Never ever underestimate the power of silence and peace.
 

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Create a budget and stick to it (include some sort of savings payment every month and get ahead as well as you can). As your income increases pay your savings account. Say out of debt. Cash is king.

Epi
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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