"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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To the women on here

penkitten

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Who is this @penkitten that you speak of?

Fork her over!:p
Sorry for the delay but I just caught this thread.
There have always been a few women posters on this forum. Some will only ask a few questions and eventually get bored of the site and stop logging in. Others of us stumble in and stay because there really isn't another forum like it.
I grew up here. I met some of my best friends here. I also met my husband here.
I haven't been on here daily for a few years now. It's not you guys, y'all are great. It's just I was busy prioritizing work, home, husband, kids.
An update for you guys- the older 3 kids have all graduated. One graduated basic and is training in my father's footsteps with the 101st and will be deployed in the next year.
One is in nursing school and has gotten married and has had to move across the country to where my new son in law is stationed. The youngest has been acting out and seems to be much better now.
I turned 40 yesterday.
So, it's been busy for me.

I may not be able to log in daily but I do try to come in and post when I can.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Sorry for the delay but I just caught this thread.
There have always been a few women posters on this forum. Some will only ask a few questions and eventually get bored of the site and stop logging in. Others of us stumble in and stay because there really isn't another forum like it.
I grew up here. I met some of my best friends here. I also met my husband here.
I haven't been on here daily for a few years now. It's not you guys, y'all are great. It's just I was busy prioritizing work, home, husband, kids.
An update for you guys- the older 3 kids have all graduated. One graduated basic and is training in my father's footsteps with the 101st and will be deployed in the next year.
One is in nursing school and has gotten married and has had to move across the country to where my new son in law is stationed. The youngest has been acting out and seems to be much better now.
I turned 40 yesterday.
So, it's been busy for me.

I may not be able to log in daily but I do try to come in and post when I can.
Happy late birthday and may this year be blessed :)
 

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BeTheChange

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the women who come here are usually pretty nice people and fair minded, unicorn status in that regard. A good breath of fresh air for those of us in the game.
I dunno....you kind of expect this from post wall women. Most are 15/20+ years post wall too. Wiser by necessity not by virtue.

If you had hot 22 year olds here talking like LiveYourDream then you might have a point. But that's not the case at all.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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zekko

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Thank you. 40 feels great.
40? I don't even remember 40, lol.
I do remember one thing about my 40s though, they were basically the same thing as my 30s.
 
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