"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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To the curb and back again?

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I have a slight problem...

There've been 3 girls now that I've "kicked to the curb" because they weren't interested(they rejected me) and weren't worth my time.

Thing is, now these 3(yeah i know, all at the same time too, creepy) are starting to warm up and "crawl back". For instance, out of the complete fvcking BLUE, a girl who i asked out smoothly & got rejected two months ago suddenly starts talking to me again and asking to "hang out". Another 'closed the door' on me at a party afew weeks ago when i made my intentions quite clear, and is now asking if we can "meet up". The last is just giving me IOIs after snubbing me in a phone call...

My question is, how should I handle this considering they blew their first chance? Could it just be their inexperience?(2 of them are virgins:))

Part of me is saying: Let them back into my life and have fun with it

The other part is saying: Move on, there's plenty more.
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Interesting.

I've had the same thing from inexperienced women. Often, they are unsure, and reject you straightaway. I had one a few months back who I asked out, rejected, flirted again, agreed, day1 great, no day2, then a month or so later she's asking me out instead!

You acted correctly, by cutting off contact when you realised that they were not worth your time.

By that time though, I'd decided to concentrate on playing women and she obviously expected excusivity. (Is that even a word?)

Personally, I'd go with it, but with low expectations.
 
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You know honestly after they give you the run around, it pretty much is moot point to try again. Especially if you had strong feelings for them. I just went through this mess and I should have never tried again. Mine after a few months acted interested and said things like "I thought you were going to call me and we get together and do something this weekend." I did just that and hooked up with her. First date was really nice and I thought she may be coming around. Second date made me realize that I just opened almost closed wounds and she was the flake she always was!!! If you decide to do it....Don't over expect. Once and Flake, Always a Flake!!
 
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