"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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To the curb and back again?

Quiksilver

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I have a slight problem...

There've been 3 girls now that I've "kicked to the curb" because they weren't interested(they rejected me) and weren't worth my time.

Thing is, now these 3(yeah i know, all at the same time too, creepy) are starting to warm up and "crawl back". For instance, out of the complete fvcking BLUE, a girl who i asked out smoothly & got rejected two months ago suddenly starts talking to me again and asking to "hang out". Another 'closed the door' on me at a party afew weeks ago when i made my intentions quite clear, and is now asking if we can "meet up". The last is just giving me IOIs after snubbing me in a phone call...

My question is, how should I handle this considering they blew their first chance? Could it just be their inexperience?(2 of them are virgins:))

Part of me is saying: Let them back into my life and have fun with it

The other part is saying: Move on, there's plenty more.
 
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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aftershock

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Interesting.

I've had the same thing from inexperienced women. Often, they are unsure, and reject you straightaway. I had one a few months back who I asked out, rejected, flirted again, agreed, day1 great, no day2, then a month or so later she's asking me out instead!

You acted correctly, by cutting off contact when you realised that they were not worth your time.

By that time though, I'd decided to concentrate on playing women and she obviously expected excusivity. (Is that even a word?)

Personally, I'd go with it, but with low expectations.
 

SoldMySoul

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You know honestly after they give you the run around, it pretty much is moot point to try again. Especially if you had strong feelings for them. I just went through this mess and I should have never tried again. Mine after a few months acted interested and said things like "I thought you were going to call me and we get together and do something this weekend." I did just that and hooked up with her. First date was really nice and I thought she may be coming around. Second date made me realize that I just opened almost closed wounds and she was the flake she always was!!! If you decide to do it....Don't over expect. Once and Flake, Always a Flake!!
 
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