trickynick
Master Don Juan
Athough not as subjective a topic, it has been talked about on here almost as much as the existence of God. Hopefully this thread will not rack up as many replies
. The scope of this tip is use of the phone in the early stages. Let me just preface this by saying that this is not all my own original material. It's more of a collection of techniques I have learned from a number of sources (including here and ASF) that I have found to be the most effective in my real world experience, written in the hopes that it will result in not as many phone questions because there are more interesting things to be discussed.
When to call a girl you just met
Generally, anywhere from 2-10 days after getting her number depending on several things. The only thing you should not do under any circumstances whatsoever is call the same day or the next. The earlier you call the more desparate you will seem, but the higher the woman's interest level is the less she will think that. If a girl has an obviously high interest level, 2-4 days is appropriate. If you wait longer, you may end up in a situation where you have to rebuild her interest level in you. It is up to you to determine what her interest level is and whether or not to let her wait.
Since a good percentage of the women you meet will not be super high interest level right off the bat, it's good to wait 5-10 days to call some of them. This may seem like a long time, but in my experience it is better to call too late than too soon with a woman of questionable interest level.
Also, it's good to call two or three days before you plan to set up the date.
Answering Machines and Caller ID
During the first week of attempting to get a hold of her, don't leave a message and (in the U.S. and wherever else it's available) always dial *67 to protect yourself from caller ID. The only problem here is that some companies are offering a feature which automatically routes *67 calls to voice mail.
If the number is getting old (a week to 10 days) and you have not managed to reach her, bite the bullet and leave a message and here is how, "Hi it's <your name>, from <place you met> on <Saturday>. My number is 555-555-5555. It's too bad I couldn't get a hold of you. I was hoping we could...<click>". Hang up mid sentence, guaranteed to get a return phone call if she has any interest in you whatsoever. Never call her again if that doesn't produce a return call.
Also spend very little time on the phone in the early stages and don't call to BS, just to set up dates.
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You either own the game or it owns you!
[This message has been edited by trickynick (edited 03-12-2002).]
When to call a girl you just met
Generally, anywhere from 2-10 days after getting her number depending on several things. The only thing you should not do under any circumstances whatsoever is call the same day or the next. The earlier you call the more desparate you will seem, but the higher the woman's interest level is the less she will think that. If a girl has an obviously high interest level, 2-4 days is appropriate. If you wait longer, you may end up in a situation where you have to rebuild her interest level in you. It is up to you to determine what her interest level is and whether or not to let her wait.
Since a good percentage of the women you meet will not be super high interest level right off the bat, it's good to wait 5-10 days to call some of them. This may seem like a long time, but in my experience it is better to call too late than too soon with a woman of questionable interest level.
Also, it's good to call two or three days before you plan to set up the date.
Answering Machines and Caller ID
During the first week of attempting to get a hold of her, don't leave a message and (in the U.S. and wherever else it's available) always dial *67 to protect yourself from caller ID. The only problem here is that some companies are offering a feature which automatically routes *67 calls to voice mail.
If the number is getting old (a week to 10 days) and you have not managed to reach her, bite the bullet and leave a message and here is how, "Hi it's <your name>, from <place you met> on <Saturday>. My number is 555-555-5555. It's too bad I couldn't get a hold of you. I was hoping we could...<click>". Hang up mid sentence, guaranteed to get a return phone call if she has any interest in you whatsoever. Never call her again if that doesn't produce a return call.
Also spend very little time on the phone in the early stages and don't call to BS, just to set up dates.
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You either own the game or it owns you!
[This message has been edited by trickynick (edited 03-12-2002).]
