returnofpigman
Don Juan
I am 52. I have two daughters. I am not having more kids. I think I should snip. Mainly because late 20-30 somethings are appealing. Thoughts?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
To snip or not to snip
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
KindredSpiritzz
Senior Don Juan
im 54, same situation. They may appeal to you but what are the chances of you getting one?
Wish i woulda did snipping 30 yrs ago. Most women our age have had hysterectomies or reached menopause so i feel like whats the point? Granted i probably aint gonna be banging any 20 some or 30 some yr olds anymore but if you figure you can get them then yeak id surely get snipped. Thats a landmine you do NOT want to step on this late in life.
Wish i woulda did snipping 30 yrs ago. Most women our age have had hysterectomies or reached menopause so i feel like whats the point? Granted i probably aint gonna be banging any 20 some or 30 some yr olds anymore but if you figure you can get them then yeak id surely get snipped. Thats a landmine you do NOT want to step on this late in life.
SirBigBell
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Ive toyed with the idea for years now because I dont want to have more kids. I keep dithering though because a little voice keeps asking me “what if the surgeon makes a mistake and cuts the wrong wire and you spend the rest of your life failing to get it up? Dont risk it bro”
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.