She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Well nothings going to help except you. You could read up for a week on specifc things by approaching 12 sets and unless you have the balls to do it then its worth nothingOriginally posted by Mr Shy
that doesnt help
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Maybe this will help...Originally posted by Mr Shy
that doesnt help
ROFL!!! never looked at it this way. Thanks LikOriginally posted by LikRetsam
It's finally happened! I'm imune to getting pissed off at retarded posts?!!?!? YAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY.
It's time to apply Lik Therapy.
Question 1)
What is the difference in between 1 girl and 6?(Besides the number, smart ass)
Question 2)
Why in God's name would another girl be a disadvantage?
In a group, there are more opportunites/things to pick up on. Area of effect DJing means you're hitting 6 at the same time. 6 times the pimping in the same amount of time as 1.
HUMANITY HAS MADE YOU WEAK!
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.