Crazy.... I still have dreams... and flashbacks... memories pop up... etc cuz I still live in the same area... ex left ... but I stayed very local (couple blocks away) to be close to my kids... then 1yr after we separated my kids were asking to move in with me and that home just wasn't same without me there. .... and they didn't like how soon new guy came into picture (2 months and he stayed for an entire month on his first visit) ... my kids were 15 and 21 at the time... once the kids moved in with me... she moved to other side of Canada to live with new guy where he lived.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
To reach out.... or not.
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
She's trash already. Take up boxing. No need to compete or spar if you don't want to get hit, and there is ALWAYS something you can be doing to improve your strength/conditioning, skills or technique. The mountain ranges in the Pac NW are unbelievable and BC should be the same so you can bag some peaks like I did in my four years there. After the descent, go grab a craft beer or two with your buds. These, I've deemed to be worthy endeavors and beats holding on to too much mental poisons within. Set a focus on attaining new goals small, medium, large and short-term, mid-term and long-term. Keep moving forward, no side-stepping.
Oh ... for sure. I don't get to choose not to have the flashbacks etc... they just happen. But I'm far happier in my life than when I was with her.... I remember the good days but I also remember how terrible the bad days were too. I'm a hunter and so I get out there with my kids more often now that I don't have a wife that says no... or whatever. The new GF likes hunting too so that's a bonus..... I have also been takin up downhill mountain biking with my son.. he kicks my azz but it's still fun and great exercise.... life goes on! I'm not stopping here.
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Mystery once suggested when ever you contemplate should I or shouldn't I you always should. it's for the reference. in this predicament the best option is getting over her b6 getting under a hotter younger girl.
Oh I am not going back.... and it does take two to tango... at times I was a fkn prick..... unpredictable... I definitely contributed to our downfall.. but I was not the final nail in the coffin.... that's on her...
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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I think this one is gonna be out of most of our wheel houses here, therapy would probably be a good start