FunkyMillion
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That's the question guys. What are your rule when it comes to waitresses? Is it cool to hit on a waitress?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
To hit or not to hit on waitresses
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
they're working you for a big tip. Especially ****tail waitresses in a bar, they'll flirt with you because a lot of guys will tip extremely well if they think they're getting laid. Trust me, I've worked in enough bars and restaurants to know this.
Well...I've fvcked enough bartenders and waitresses to know that it isn't always true! Tip good, but not supplicating good. If you have half a brain, you can tell the difference between flirting for tips, and real ioi's. Of course, Im always a regular of the girls when I bang them. I havent cold approached one I didnt know in a strange place, and gotten any, though.
I've found that for asking them out, I just throw out an idea for seeing a live band and see if they want to go. If they are interested, and dont have to work, they will go, no matter who the band is.
In general, servers are kind of slvtty, so take advantage of it.
I've found that for asking them out, I just throw out an idea for seeing a live band and see if they want to go. If they are interested, and dont have to work, they will go, no matter who the band is.
In general, servers are kind of slvtty, so take advantage of it.
That's different, they're less likely to work a regular, who would have already built a rapport with them by that point.horaholic said:
lol, yep, that was one of the only things I liked about working in restaurants/bars. I've ****ed more than my fair share (I know, don't **** where you eat, but as long as you keep it casual it's ok).horaholic said:
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Dante420
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Never, at most show her some charm. It's not worth it. 90 percent chance they're working you and 10% chance that you may feel inclined to tip more.
Unbridled_Phoenix
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I say yes, but proceed with a degree of trepidation. I have banged waitresses and bartenders, but always where I was a regular and built good rapport. These girls get hit on, asked for their numbers, and hear cheesy lines all day/night. Flirting and active indifference have always served me well with them.
But what also happens is situations like the one I find myself in YET AGAIN. Started going to another bar awhile ago, the lead bartender came to be all over me, but had a bf. After they broke up, she came on really strong with me. But before I could close her, another waitress there invited me back to her place and, well, the original has been an ice queen ever since. Now there is another new waitress there who I have been flirting with but the other two are still there and I'm stuck wondering just how much clucking these hens have been doing.
Yeah, I know.
The moral of the story is, it's fun to practice and even screw with them but these situations can become a soap opera. You must learn their schedules and know who works on what night, but I now see I may be able to go 3-0 in that bar...
But what also happens is situations like the one I find myself in YET AGAIN. Started going to another bar awhile ago, the lead bartender came to be all over me, but had a bf. After they broke up, she came on really strong with me. But before I could close her, another waitress there invited me back to her place and, well, the original has been an ice queen ever since. Now there is another new waitress there who I have been flirting with but the other two are still there and I'm stuck wondering just how much clucking these hens have been doing.
Yeah, I know.
The moral of the story is, it's fun to practice and even screw with them but these situations can become a soap opera. You must learn their schedules and know who works on what night, but I now see I may be able to go 3-0 in that bar...
Yes, this worked because they were themselves, they weren't putting on an act to get bigger tips from you. With the waitresses I banged I either worked with them or they worked with friends of mine. I'm really hoping I'm gonna get this new job at a new upscale bar, all the girls that were at my interview were hot, like hb8 on average.Unbridled_Phoenix said:
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Another case of Hooters!!!
I ended up getting a date with a Hooters girl, but only because my car was like a pseudo-BMW and I was popular at my school. Other than that, I know in my right mind that without it, it would've been hella harder to get her.
Don't you motherf**kers realize that the waitresses are being flirty to get a bigger tip from you? You're not gonna get laid and you're not gonna be her boyfriend. There are four 6's that women find important and you'd better have them all before even getting to know the b**ch!
Don't believe the hype, or the hypothetical when it comes to waitresses' initiation.
I ended up getting a date with a Hooters girl, but only because my car was like a pseudo-BMW and I was popular at my school. Other than that, I know in my right mind that without it, it would've been hella harder to get her.
Don't you motherf**kers realize that the waitresses are being flirty to get a bigger tip from you? You're not gonna get laid and you're not gonna be her boyfriend. There are four 6's that women find important and you'd better have them all before even getting to know the b**ch!
Don't believe the hype, or the hypothetical when it comes to waitresses' initiation.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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How often does that work?Wolf said: