Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
The money for it got wasted on the Cold War / Vietnam War / Korean War. So did the dreams of Gens X Y Z.cola said:What happend to the american dream?
Honestly, I don't know. Hell, I got one now claiming to be pregnant, but I don't trust her any farther than I can throw her.cola said:Did you have kids?
No.cola said:Were you married?
Yes.cola said:Are you really 50?
Yes, and I occasionally screw 'em too.cola said:Do you talk to women that are 50+?
No.cola said:Are you financially succesful?
I been wondering about it for decades.cola said:Just wondering
Feminism happened. The powers that be put women into the workforce by boggling their brains through T.V., magazines, etc. As women entered the workforce, men's jobs simply disappeared as women filled those slots. Therefore there was a massive trickle-down effect. Men who should be holding decent jobs are now working at 7-11 because they have been bumped down due to too many people in the workforce. But the powers are happy because now women are slaving away at the 9 to 5 just like men and paying taxes.cola said:What happend to the american dream?
Nope.cola said:Did you have kids?
No. I was engaged once but broke it off.cola said:Were you married?
55.cola said:Are you really 50?
Rarely. I'm so young for my age (both in looks and in demeanor) that women in their 50s seem ancient to me. Mid-30s to mid-40s is my comfort level.cola said:Do you talk to women that are 50+?
Yes. 2 businesses and a thriving music career.cola said:Are you financially succesful?
What makes you ask?cola said:Just wondering
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
The 30s is really the first decade of adulthood. For me, I still didn't have a clue about women. This didn't change until my late 40s. I would say that ideally your 30s could and should be your best years in regard to women, but it all depends on the individual. Looking ahead the 40s and 50s seems amazingly old, but looking back it's not that way at all. From this vantage point, it's not "Wow, I'm old and you're young". Rather, it's "We're all adults" and people in their 30s, 40s and 50s all seem about the same.SteR said:Since we're targeting the older gents here, I have a couple of questions:
Are your 30s really the best years of your life as a man? (in terms of attracting women)
Knowing what you know now, not just in regards to women, what key advice would you pass on to the younger generation? (and I mean 'key' since this is a rather open-ended question and I'm sure you could give a thousand answers)
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Its always pleasable to read this man, he point at whats bad without venting or any persecution attitude at the same time he makes clear whats good and what is useful to be done.Atom Smasher said:The 30s is really the first decade of adulthood. For me, I still didn't have a clue about women. This didn't change until my late 40s. I would say that ideally your 30s could and should be your best years in regard to women, but it all depends on the individual. Looking ahead the 40s and 50s seems amazingly old, but looking back it's not that way at all. From this vantage point, it's not "Wow, I'm old and you're young". Rather, it's "We're all adults" and people in their 30s, 40s and 50s all seem about the same.
So for me, my best years with women are my 50s. For you it might be 30s. Sexually, there is almost no difference between now and when I was in my twenties. When I was in my early twenties my 35 year old boss said that sexually he was just the same, and in my infinite wisdom I said to myself "Yeah, right". LOL, he was ancient to me.
I can happily report that even into your 50s you remain virtually the same sexually. I notice no diminishment at all, except perhaps that I have better self-control, that I don't need sex to validate my manhood.
Good times are ahead, young men! Back in the 1960s, 40 was considered OLD. Nowadays people stay younger much longer. If you guys could actually see me you would be shocked. You would be certain you were looking at a 35 year old.
For question #2:
Learn self-discipline. Undoing bad habits is massively, MASSIVELY difficult when you're older.
Value yourself above women. Realize that this is our world and that we need to reassert that. It is the natural order and our birthright. Every man should consider himself a King, taking care of his people, respecting and helping them but severely punishing outright disrespect.
Read between the lines.cola said:What happend to the american dream?
Money in the wars and it's a lot smaller than in the 80's.
Did you have kids?
Never have, probably never will.
Were you married?
Never, probably won't.
Are you really 50?
I'm really 50 divided by 2.![]()
Do you talk to women that are 50+?
Hell Yeah! I took a couple of women over 60 into chambers. I can't stand young women.
Are you financially succesful?
Not yet. Can't wait to get there. Much more prospects and time with the family.
Just wondering
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
to younger guys, get your sh1t together asap, health, keep your weight down, work out, dont overdo the partying and do not let a woman be only source of your happiness, you will end up more miserable 99% of the timecola said:What happend to the american dream?
Im not American but 'the dream' was an aspiration, a glorious one but feminism put the bot into that, now its a nightmare.
Did you have kids?
4
Were you married?
yes, 21 years, a reasoanbly good marriage for the most part but had this site been around 30 years or so ago, it wouldnt have happened and wont again of that I am pretty certain.
Are you really 50?
very nearly
Do you talk to women that are 50+?
yes, but they are a strange bunch, they want to be married and settled down more desperately than a 25 year old wants a child. its not going to happen with me, I dont know about other guys but the 'wall' although being hit by many women at 40, really becomes a physical trainwreck at 50 for women, the good looking women at 50 + are very few and far between.
Are you financially succesful?
not really but Im independant, good career and a decent wage
Just wondering
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
zekko said:
Knowing what you know now, not just in regards to women, what key advice would you pass on to the younger generation?
Get your house in order, especially financially. Do what you have to do to maximize your income, whether it be education, extra hours working on your business, whatever. Live simply within your means, save for the future, study about retirement, invest in retirement. It comes around more quickly than you might think, and I would take the attitude that you'll have to pay your own way. The quicker you start and the harder you hit it, the better off you'll be. I don't plan on working my whole life.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.