"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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to approach or not to approach...

ilikecharlene

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There is this woman at work who is not my immediate type exactly (I like southern Asian/Indian women mainly, but she is black) but she has a curvy body and killer boobs. I only would date a woman with defined boobs, and I'm too minds as to whether approach her or not. She is not my type, but her boobage is mesmerising. lol...

Of course, the cliche of "don't **** where you eat" applies as it is work, but we don't work in the same department, and I alternate between offices anyhow.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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AlexLefty

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Try not to make excuses. Just approach
 

BigSmooth

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Approach first, think second!

Do it...NOW.
 
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