"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Mr_knowit_all

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Belvidere and his microcosm of interracial brotherhood. People are people, you're right. But why did you bring up the fact that you grew up in a multi-cultural neighborhood?

People like you say race doesn't matter, but in essence it matters a lot to you. Even though you think you're being Mr diversity, you're very racially aware. What I'm saying is, you purposely pick friends from different races because you think it's cool to do so, or you're trying to show the world how UNracist you are. This is also a big motivator for some liberal white chicks who date black guys. They may not even like the poor black guy, but they'll date him to show the world how racially conscious they are, and how we're all so "close minded" because we don't follow suit.

When you think about it, people like this are some of the most racist people around. Using minorities to make themselves look cool or politically correct...HOW RUDE....

I have friends of almost all races, but aside from right now, I don't feel the need to tell people that. You know why? because they're just people to me, and I really don't notice their color.
 

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what I don't get is why the fuss over one freaking race of women, when even though I date them, aren't the women I find most attractive..

I am CRAZY about asian women.. there jsut aren't any down here where I am... A fine asian woman makes my heart melt

I lOVE hispanic women, and I talk to my share of them, my old oneitis is hispanic

I think middle eastern women are very very underrated.. I have seen some pretty bad ones around here lately

I love greek/italian women.. they are damn near a dead heat with asian women in my book

White women are overrated as whole.. now, there are some bad ones out there, a hell of alot of them... but it's by no means the all ends all race of women to date.. I doubt I marry a white woman, not because of different races but because the protypical woman I would actually spend the rest of my ilfe with is probably asian.. because it's the woman I would marry and it would take a woman to knock me 10 feet back to even consider marriage

why I'm moving to Cali, because there are alot of white women down here, and not enough asian/hispanic/etc women... I love Black women, of course i am black, my ex GF of 1 year, who can compete with any girl Ia m talking to neck and neck for looks, and still has the best all around body I have ever seen, at leat for me, is black


The fact that this tread has because a flaming war over a guy stating how he can get 'white women', the guy is the sad clown so to speak... I date women.. I tell everyone that..> I frankly don't give a damn if you are purpole if you are fine as hell... if we are just talking about ****ing/dating


My entire point to the poster was look... you aren't omnipresent.. you are making an a tenous arguement basied off of emperical information, simple as that.

I mean no matter what "conculsion" is came from this crap, I am still dating fine ass women of all races, regarldess.. it's not like I'm going to turn to the woman in my bed and say "Mr_knowit_all says I can't date you, so you have to leave because you are not black and I have to stick to my own kind" (assuming she isn't black of course)
 

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Yeah you got me pegged, in real life I'm a douchebag who cant see people for people. Please, carry one with your worthless arguement and dont waste your time replying to me. I dont have time to spend argueing the way I live my life and why I do so with anyone on the internet who doesn't know me.
 

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:crackup: This stuff is hilarious, too many people post on topics that they are ignorant of. First lets break it down. Of the 300 million people in the US 200mil + are white or of european descent 36mil are hispanic 35 mil black or of african descent and it breaks down from there. To add the Latino and Black populations are higly concentrated in certain areas (Ny Cali Ga etc) which means unless youre in these areas u dont see many ethnicities or atleast the best of. Now what people tend to forget is we are not far removed from the days of segregation, what that means is that most of our views of the race issues come from parents or influential people in our lives and the media, not from personal experience. Anywhere u go in the US there will be plenty of white people because they are by far the majority. Over the next few decades this topic will start to become irrelevant, as the last true racists die off and communities become more mixed people will see things for the truth. Its all about Attraction, so please please white guys stop telling me that a black guy cant get hot white women cause ive had several and i see i all dA time, and please please black guys stop trying to prove yourself to these white guys u cant convice one with words they must see and with that they may still deny. Stop trying to prove yourself and concetrate on whats importand u her and the experiences u share. White women are not that hot compared to women of any ethnicity. ;) but i still, lov em the same :crackup:
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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DJ_in_making

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Originally posted by Mac_Laaarry
:crackup: This stuff is hilarious, too many people post on topics that they are ignorant of. First lets break it down. Of the 300 million people in the US 200mil + are white or of european descent 36mil are hispanic 35 mil black or of african descent and it breaks down from there. To add the Latino and Black populations are higly concentrated in certain areas (Ny Cali Ga etc) which means unless youre in these areas u dont see many ethnicities or atleast the best of. Now what people tend to forget is we are not far removed from the days of segregation, what that means is that most of our views of the race issues come from parents or influential people in our lives and the media, not from personal experience. Anywhere u go in the US there will be plenty of white people because they are by far the majority. Over the next few decades this topic will start to become irrelevant, as the last true racists die off and communities become more mixed people will see things for the truth. Its all about Attraction, so please please white guys stop telling me that a black guy cant get hot white women cause ive had several and i see i all dA time, and please please black guys stop trying to prove yourself to these white guys u cant convice one with words they must see and with that they may still deny. Stop trying to prove yourself and concetrate on whats importand u her and the experiences u share. White women are not that hot compared to women of any ethnicity. ;) but i still, lov em the same :crackup:
Very insightful
 

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I have a serious quetion. I'm curious how do these white girls parents react? Especially the father. You won't find too many white fathers that will be happy about their daughter dating a black guy.
 

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Originally posted by Silverback82
I have a serious quetion. I'm curious how do these white girls parents react? Especially the father. You won't find too many white fathers that will be happy about their daughter dating a black guy.

Okay, that obviously wasn't a question b/c you just answered it. :rolleyes:

okay I said you weren't being spiteful earlier, but now you seem to just be digressing to the point where you need to find anything negative to post about.

Since when was this post about the reaction of the fathers?? Some fathers won't care and some will, does that answer your question? Whether or not you want to believe it BLACK GUYS DATE WHITE GIRLS! much more frequently than you think, just let it go man.....
 

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Originally posted by DJ_in_making
okay, now you seem to just be digressing to find anything negative to post about.

Since when was this post about the reaction of the fathers?? Some fathers won't and some will, doest that answer your question?
once again people feel the need to get overly sensitive:rolleyes:

It was a serious question. Taylor Rain didn't want people to find out. A girl that sells her body for money didn't want people to know. I'm just looking for answers.
 

DJ_in_making

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Originally posted by Silverback82
once again people feel the need to get overly sensitive:rolleyes:

Is that your way of saying "Oh sh!t I don't have a comeback"?

And if it was a serious question why did you answer it, you only answer rhetorical questions.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Silverback82

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Originally posted by DJ_in_making
Is that your way of saying "Oh sh!t I don't have a comeback"?
so much for the "good conversation" you wanted

sorry for hurting your feelings
 

DJ_in_making

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Originally posted by Silverback82
so much for the "good conversation" you wanted

sorry for hurting your feelings
once again my question remains unanswered. And instead you digress w/ childish little insults. It's cool though.
 

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Originally posted by DJ_in_making
once again my question remains unanswered. And instead you digress w/ childish little insults. It's cool though.
Childish insults? Where is the name calling? What is your question?
 

syemour

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Originally posted by belividere
I really wonder why any of you guys bother with this arguement. It seems to always dominate a spot on the first page of the discussion forum. Pointless arguements that never really go anywhere.

Anyways, I'm as white as it gets but am happy that I was brought up in a racially diverse area. Some of my best friends/wings are black, white, south american, and european. All of us can/have grabbed gorgeous women of all descents. It has never been about proving a point between any of us it has been about feeling attraction and running with it. I've dated girls from all backgrounds and will continue to do so. My friends will most likely do the same until we all settle down. I have no idea why people still harbor any interracial stigma but I have seen both sides of this street. I've gotten sh1t for dating black girls from black guys and my friends the opposite. People are close minded and I just ignore those who are. I have to many things going on in my own life then to worry about what other people think.
thank you so much. with this i can relax. have a nice day and live your life well(even though i know u are).
 

djbr

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Originally posted by SynTheUnscathed
EXACTLY.

That is why I thought the entire thread was stupid. All it is trying to show is that black men can get white girls. Trying to prove something to people you don't even know and should have to prove nothing.

Sickening.

The fact is, some people will never want to believe black men can get beautiful white girls, and when it does happen openly in the media, Taye Diggs, Kobe Bryant, Seal amoung others...its some sort of fluke or logical explanation.

Attraction is attraction. People are people.

Dont generalize races. Come on guys, grow up!
I agree!

In the same way, white males get black beauties too.

I just can't get what is the problem with this. :)
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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