"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Tired of waiting

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Hey guys I’m a 33 year old guy that’s been dating a virgin Latina 23 year old. We are approaching our 1 year anniversary soon. Im debating whether or not to break up with her. I’m tired of waiting for sex. I get blowies from her but she doesn’t let me finish in her mouth. I’ve been bummed out at this situation I’m in.
Should I accept the loss and move on. Or rough it out till she puts out , she has said that by the end of this year she’ll be ready , but I doubt that.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hey guys I’m a 33 year old guy that’s been dating a virgin Latina 23 year old. We are approaching our 1 year anniversary soon. Im debating whether or not to break up with her. I’m tired of waiting for sex. I get blowies from her but she doesn’t let me finish in her mouth. I’ve been bummed out at this situation I’m in.
Should I accept the loss and move on. Or rough it out till she puts out , she has said that by the end of this year she’ll be ready , but I doubt that.
Is it important to you that she is a virgin? Because Odds are that you wont find another one. I think if you didnt care about it, you would have monkey-branched to another girl a long time ago.
 

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Hey guys I’m a 33 year old guy that’s been dating a virgin Latina 23 year old. We are approaching our 1 year anniversary soon. Im debating whether or not to break up with her. I’m tired of waiting for sex. I get blowies from her but she doesn’t let me finish in her mouth. I’ve been bummed out at this situation I’m in.
Should I accept the loss and move on. Or rough it out till she puts out , she has said that by the end of this year she’ll be ready , but I doubt that.
Just let her know that you have physical needs and until she is willing to meet them you will need to date other women as well. Essentially tell her she is being downgraded in status.

She may dump you but whatever. You waited many months too long. IMO she isn't into you.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Hey guys I’m a 33 year old guy that’s been dating a virgin Latina 23 year old. We are approaching our 1 year anniversary soon. Im debating whether or not to break up with her. I’m tired of waiting for sex. I get blowies from her but she doesn’t let me finish in her mouth. I’ve been bummed out at this situation I’m in.
Should I accept the loss and move on. Or rough it out till she puts out , she has said that by the end of this year she’ll be ready , but I doubt that.
That doesn't sound right at all. A virgin who gives blow jobs but avoids penetrative sex for a year now? What possible explanation does she have for this behaviour? :rolleyes:
 

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Shes waiting for something better and offering the bare minimum to keep you around.
Drop your fishing rod in other ponds and you wont care about the wait with the abundance.
If she comes around with the honey pot, it’s a bonus, but focus your efforts elsewhere.
 

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You ain’t turning her stove hot enough. If a woman doesn’t put out after 2 months and that’s pushing it then she either fvcking someone else, she doesn’t see you as a potential sex god, or idling for a better option to give you the “I need some time” treatment.
Virgin or not cut your losses and hit the road. Women are dispensable and money makes the world go round.
 

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She bring up wanting to be married too? What other hoops is she making you jump thru in order to access her sacred velvet love box?

If I'm not fuhking some girl, then I'm not in a relationship with her. She is just a friend.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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We are approaching our 1 year anniversary soon
ONE YEAR? :rolleyes:
Like wtf?

Dude she doesn´t (highly likely) desire you enough.
Only exception would be she was brought up in monastery with only nuns and she is extremely devoted to her faith of Christ....
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But is less likely too. But hey they say unicorns exist too, they are just.. Rare, right?

Desire is bytch because you cannot bargain for it. Its either there or it isn´t.

There is millions on girls our there; there is absolutely no logical reason or argument that justifies that you would convert yourself to a monk for years just one girl.

Spin the wheel instead and get rid of your huge blueballs..... :devil:
 
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Hey guys I’m a 33 year old guy that’s been dating a virgin Latina 23 year old. We are approaching our 1 year anniversary soon. Im debating whether or not to break up with her. I’m tired of waiting for sex. I get blowies from her but she doesn’t let me finish in her mouth. I’ve been bummed out at this situation I’m in.
Should I accept the loss and move on. Or rough it out till she puts out , she has said that by the end of this year she’ll be ready , but I doubt that.

Is Anal an option?
 

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No, the reality is that you fvck (way) below average women on tinder and you think you are a pimp. You're like 28-29 but you would still be virgin if old didnt exist. You have no balls or/and you're you ugly/skinny/whatever to talk to women irl.
Thats whats up with you.
Youre in no position to give advice.
Who hurt you bro?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Youre in no position to give advice.
To be fair, he didnt give any advice. Maybe he was proyecting or being blackpill, or something; but I wouldnt call whatever he posted in this thread "giving advice".
 

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One year is not normal. I think @Stuffnu hit the nail the head: She doesnt consider him "worthy" and is keeping him around with blowies until someone "better" comes along.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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