You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
ha ha ha I have an Asian friend with blonde hair and we always make fun of her that when she comes out with us to hang out with white boys she blows them all away... because every white boy's dream is a hot Asian chick with blonde hair and big tits. Of course, we're just joking around with her, but how many guys here DO agree with me?Originally posted by got_crabs
ooh yea...another way to tell if they are westernized...they always dye their damn hair blonde =/
man, I just can't let this one go.. I think if I went up to an asian chick and asked about Pho.. it would result in her looking at me sideways and trying to step around me.. and not looking back.Originally posted by DraGon_luv
About the Pho , i said its a good way to start a convo and find out if there westernized
You guys can ask me about pasta any time.Originally posted by dionysius_d
would you go up to a Latina and ask about taco's?? Or an italian chick about pasta?? or go up to a middle eastern chick and ask if she likes tabouli ??
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Asian chick with blonde hair? Ghetto Asian chick comes to mind, and that's a major turn off. I don't know any guys that like blonde hair on asians.Originally posted by Sexy_Malibu
ha ha ha I have an Asian friend with blonde hair and we always make fun of her that when she comes out with us to hang out with white boys she blows them all away... because every white boy's dream is a hot Asian chick with blonde hair and big tits. Of course, we're just joking around with her, but how many guys here DO agree with me?
DraGon_Luv, very accurate last sentence about the strict asian parents. I know many asian girls who told me that the reason why they do stuff like that was to rebel. Piercings and tatoos are also a sign of rebellion, although most just involve the orange tinge in the otherwise black silky hair. Blond on asians just reeks of dirty pornstar slut or something. Looks crappy on asian girls.Originally posted by DraGon_luv
and the blonde hair thing alot of yonger asian people do that,
some of the girls look good with it some are just yucky.
most of the good girls asian girls wont dye there hair, but if it is dyed then there more likly to be more open,
dyed hair with an asian chick means = there parent are that strick like most asian parents
I don't really dig blonde hair on asians. Not that it doesn't look good, but i don't prefer it over their natural color.Originally posted by Sexy_Malibu
ha ha ha I have an Asian friend with blonde hair and we always make fun of her that when she comes out with us to hang out with white boys she blows them all away... because every white boy's dream is a hot Asian chick with blonde hair and big tits. Of course, we're just joking around with her, but how many guys here DO agree with me?
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.