She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
ha ha ha I have an Asian friend with blonde hair and we always make fun of her that when she comes out with us to hang out with white boys she blows them all away... because every white boy's dream is a hot Asian chick with blonde hair and big tits. Of course, we're just joking around with her, but how many guys here DO agree with me?Originally posted by got_crabs
ooh yea...another way to tell if they are westernized...they always dye their damn hair blonde =/
man, I just can't let this one go.. I think if I went up to an asian chick and asked about Pho.. it would result in her looking at me sideways and trying to step around me.. and not looking back.Originally posted by DraGon_luv
About the Pho , i said its a good way to start a convo and find out if there westernized
You guys can ask me about pasta any time.Originally posted by dionysius_d
would you go up to a Latina and ask about taco's?? Or an italian chick about pasta?? or go up to a middle eastern chick and ask if she likes tabouli ??
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Asian chick with blonde hair? Ghetto Asian chick comes to mind, and that's a major turn off. I don't know any guys that like blonde hair on asians.Originally posted by Sexy_Malibu
ha ha ha I have an Asian friend with blonde hair and we always make fun of her that when she comes out with us to hang out with white boys she blows them all away... because every white boy's dream is a hot Asian chick with blonde hair and big tits. Of course, we're just joking around with her, but how many guys here DO agree with me?
DraGon_Luv, very accurate last sentence about the strict asian parents. I know many asian girls who told me that the reason why they do stuff like that was to rebel. Piercings and tatoos are also a sign of rebellion, although most just involve the orange tinge in the otherwise black silky hair. Blond on asians just reeks of dirty pornstar slut or something. Looks crappy on asian girls.Originally posted by DraGon_luv
and the blonde hair thing alot of yonger asian people do that,
some of the girls look good with it some are just yucky.
most of the good girls asian girls wont dye there hair, but if it is dyed then there more likly to be more open,
dyed hair with an asian chick means = there parent are that strick like most asian parents
I don't really dig blonde hair on asians. Not that it doesn't look good, but i don't prefer it over their natural color.Originally posted by Sexy_Malibu
ha ha ha I have an Asian friend with blonde hair and we always make fun of her that when she comes out with us to hang out with white boys she blows them all away... because every white boy's dream is a hot Asian chick with blonde hair and big tits. Of course, we're just joking around with her, but how many guys here DO agree with me?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.