You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
ha ha ha I have an Asian friend with blonde hair and we always make fun of her that when she comes out with us to hang out with white boys she blows them all away... because every white boy's dream is a hot Asian chick with blonde hair and big tits. Of course, we're just joking around with her, but how many guys here DO agree with me?Originally posted by got_crabs
ooh yea...another way to tell if they are westernized...they always dye their damn hair blonde =/
man, I just can't let this one go.. I think if I went up to an asian chick and asked about Pho.. it would result in her looking at me sideways and trying to step around me.. and not looking back.Originally posted by DraGon_luv
About the Pho , i said its a good way to start a convo and find out if there westernized
You guys can ask me about pasta any time.Originally posted by dionysius_d
would you go up to a Latina and ask about taco's?? Or an italian chick about pasta?? or go up to a middle eastern chick and ask if she likes tabouli ??
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Asian chick with blonde hair? Ghetto Asian chick comes to mind, and that's a major turn off. I don't know any guys that like blonde hair on asians.Originally posted by Sexy_Malibu
ha ha ha I have an Asian friend with blonde hair and we always make fun of her that when she comes out with us to hang out with white boys she blows them all away... because every white boy's dream is a hot Asian chick with blonde hair and big tits. Of course, we're just joking around with her, but how many guys here DO agree with me?
DraGon_Luv, very accurate last sentence about the strict asian parents. I know many asian girls who told me that the reason why they do stuff like that was to rebel. Piercings and tatoos are also a sign of rebellion, although most just involve the orange tinge in the otherwise black silky hair. Blond on asians just reeks of dirty pornstar slut or something. Looks crappy on asian girls.Originally posted by DraGon_luv
and the blonde hair thing alot of yonger asian people do that,
some of the girls look good with it some are just yucky.
most of the good girls asian girls wont dye there hair, but if it is dyed then there more likly to be more open,
dyed hair with an asian chick means = there parent are that strick like most asian parents
I don't really dig blonde hair on asians. Not that it doesn't look good, but i don't prefer it over their natural color.Originally posted by Sexy_Malibu
ha ha ha I have an Asian friend with blonde hair and we always make fun of her that when she comes out with us to hang out with white boys she blows them all away... because every white boy's dream is a hot Asian chick with blonde hair and big tits. Of course, we're just joking around with her, but how many guys here DO agree with me?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.