"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Tips for getting ABS??

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Bud_Fox

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Can anyone give me any tips for getting a six-pack of abs?

I goto the gym a lot and my arms/legs are fairly big, but abs are the one part of my body I need to work on more.

What are some tips? I know what you eat is very important, and so are sit-ups/carido. But what are some other tips/advice?

Thanks
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Charm&Style

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lower you b.f.%, no matter how many sit ups, crunches you do, you wont see that six pack till the flab is gone.
 

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abs have very little correlation with muscle. charm is right when he says it depends on BF% it's all about diet

a famous quote in my other h&f forum is:

"abs are made in the kitchen"
 
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I don't have much body fat at all, but I eat A LOT (steak, chicken, pasta, fish, you name it)! My mother always said "I eat like a horse".

I eat a lot of high-protein foods to build muscle after work-outs, but my gut is gradually getting bigger.

Maybe I should cut down on beer too???
 
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if you are eating more calories than you are expending, you will gain weight, depending on how clean the food you eat is, you may gain a little pudge.

you can't reduce fat, and gain lean muscle at the same time, bulk now, then cut. don't worry so much about abs, if you lift huge, your metabolism will take care of them for you
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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and how do you know your bf%?

calipers? tank? mirror? or electronic?
 

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Make abs bigger. Weighted decline sit ups with good form (no bending back).
 

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I don't understand :confused: . Because i actually am really skinny. I haven't measured my BF% , but i have really skinny arms/legs/wrists and have been skinny all my life. People have even told me I'm skinny. But whenever i tense my abs you can just slightly see a 4 pack, so it must mean I've got weak abs right? So i wouldn't have to lower my body fat, just do some ab exercises to make them stronger and stick out more? I mean all my fat can't just be concentrated around my abdominal area, and leave other parts of my body literally fat less.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Warboss Alex

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No, you simply need to build your abs.. you can be sub10% bodyfat and still have poor abs simply because they're not developed enough to show. See Spesmilitis' post.
 

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Yeah i was slightly confused because people are always saying the only way you can get your abs to show is by losing BF, cheers anyway.
 

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Yeah, that IS the way to get your abs to show.. but it doesn't work if you have no abs in the first place.
 
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