"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Tips Companion: Print Out THEN use - Empower your Tips!... Read!

silverwex

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EMPOWER YOUR TIPS!

I read a lot of tips on these boards and they really are excellent in helping you to approach that chick or gain more confidence in a variety of sitautions.

The only problem, and it's a biggy, is that while you are reading posts by Pook, Fingers, Photo1 etc is that in that exact moment while sitting in your room, on your computer, away from society and life in general you are saying to yourself:

'Wow, this is really a great post and this WILL help me with my problem in approaching girls/gaining more confidence' etc, etc...

But what happens to most of us when we finish reading, turn off the computer and leave our room/house? We tend to forget what was said and how the post can help us in the REAL world. We revert back to our AFC/normal ways and things NEVER change. We just act like we always do and never REALLY apply the excellent advice given to us.

Q: So how do I apply/remember the tips and act on the advice when in the real world?

A: Well, what I advise you to do is look up your favourite posts, the posts that give you that uplifiting feeling and make you feel good about yourself, copy them into Word, format them to fit on as little pages as possible and stick them in your back pocket, wallet, jacket, whatever (maybe even your PDA for extra privacy!).

Now, when you're in that bookshop, coffee shop, store, even the street, pub or nightclub - get away for a while (go to the bathroom, quiet place or somewhere you can take the pages out) and READ those uplifting posts.Then when you come back to the coffee shop, store ect... act upon what advice you were given and go chat that girl up, do that thing that scared you before you read that tip! The advice will be imprinted in your mind and you should be able to perform the desired action.

Q: What if I don't have 15 minutes to read those long long posts?
A: Just highlight the important bits of the post or see below...

Q: Yeah but what if I don't have enough space to carry around all those A4's?

A: Simply print out/write down the most important sayings/sentences in your chosen tip on a small piece of paper which can easily fit in your pocket/wallet.

I honestly believe that everyone on this board should use this tip as it'll make the advice more useful and realistic, as you'll be in the REAL world while reading and mentally applying the information.

Try it and see!

Hope this helps you to get that girl or do that thing you're scared of!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I usually forget alot of what I read unless I can specifically relate it to my life as well.

However, even though I don't really realize it, I am subconciously using it somehow. Some of you may find the same thing, others may not.

One morning I woke up and went out with some friends and this is no joke, I was 3x more entertaining (C+F) than normal!

If this subconcious effect doesn't reveal itself for you, I suggest you follow Silverwex's advice. :)
 

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I completely relate to this. So much so I've done a few things so that the important stuff is drilled into me. Here's what I do:

Write down the most powerful sentences and phrases and stick them on your fridge. Stick them on the side of your monitor. Put them in your wallet, back pocked, schoolbag. Put them on the inside of your bedroom door. Hell, recently I've been watching a lot of films, I even stuck a post-it note full of them on the side of my TV!

Wherever you go most, stick them, read them. Read them atleast 2 times a day.

I never thought of taking them out with me when I'm actively meeting people though, I've gotta give this a shot.

Nice tips :)
 

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great ideas, guys. i'll be sure to try this out.

i just need to buy some ink for my friggin' printer.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Good thinking DJBen. I suppose you could relate this tip to affirmations.
 
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