"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Tip: Instant Social Proof

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Here is a tip that I discovered, didn't do it on purpose but it seemed to have a really positive effect in making a date go well.

Met up with a girl at a local bar for some drinks. I go there during the week a bit and sometimes chat to one of the bouncers there. So now, we recognise each other and say hi and ask how its going and stuff. Met the girl there and had a few drinks and the guy comes over to shake my hand and chit chats for a bit. We then left soon after to go somewhere else but later on, I decided I wanted to go back cos the other place was crowded. By the time we got back there, there was a big queue so I say to my date, its ok, Steve will sort us out. So I go to the front of the cue and say alright Steve, ok if we go back in? and give him a bit of a wink and he ushers us in past the queue. My date was obviously impressed after that, as if I was well known and liked around town that people would do me favours.

So get known at a bar, get friendly with the staff so they will do you the occaisional favour and take girls there for instant social proof.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Hmmm, making friends as a means to gaining social proof... BRILLIANT!!!
 

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But not just any friends, the point is that it makes you look well connected or something.
 

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Nah francisco was just being sarcastic but I get what you're saying, Alan. I've got a lot of friends at this one coffee shop that I made just for the sake of being friendly. Now whenever I go in there I know the workers, the experience is more fun for me that way. The social proof is just a pleasant side effect.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Hmmm, making friends as a means to gaining social proof... BRILLIANT!!!
I love the Guinness commercials

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Colin O'Brien said:
Nah francisco was just being sarcastic but I get what you're saying, Alan. ....
Damn, I'm making it way too easy for you guys... :cool:
 

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comic_relief said:
I love the Guinness commercials

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:up: We were in a club last night and a couple of us started answering any comments on general observations with "BRILLIANT." Not everyone got it at first but people started catching on and we eventually heard people in a couple of different groups doing the same thing. It was pretty damn funny.
 

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SilverSonnet said:
I can see Francisco's point. It DOES seem abit shallow. You should pick your friends on whether you like them. Not what they can do for you.
But the point was that I didn't do it on purpose; I just go to the place a lot so know people there because I have just ended up chatting to them when I have been there other times.
 

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This also works in restaurants, coffee shops, you know. If you want to impress a date, do this at someplace plush or upscale and then bring her in. When they give you your exceptional service, she'll be amazed.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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