"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Tip: Instant Social Proof

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Here is a tip that I discovered, didn't do it on purpose but it seemed to have a really positive effect in making a date go well.

Met up with a girl at a local bar for some drinks. I go there during the week a bit and sometimes chat to one of the bouncers there. So now, we recognise each other and say hi and ask how its going and stuff. Met the girl there and had a few drinks and the guy comes over to shake my hand and chit chats for a bit. We then left soon after to go somewhere else but later on, I decided I wanted to go back cos the other place was crowded. By the time we got back there, there was a big queue so I say to my date, its ok, Steve will sort us out. So I go to the front of the cue and say alright Steve, ok if we go back in? and give him a bit of a wink and he ushers us in past the queue. My date was obviously impressed after that, as if I was well known and liked around town that people would do me favours.

So get known at a bar, get friendly with the staff so they will do you the occaisional favour and take girls there for instant social proof.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Hmmm, making friends as a means to gaining social proof... BRILLIANT!!!
 

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But not just any friends, the point is that it makes you look well connected or something.
 

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Nah francisco was just being sarcastic but I get what you're saying, Alan. I've got a lot of friends at this one coffee shop that I made just for the sake of being friendly. Now whenever I go in there I know the workers, the experience is more fun for me that way. The social proof is just a pleasant side effect.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Hmmm, making friends as a means to gaining social proof... BRILLIANT!!!
I love the Guinness commercials

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Colin O'Brien said:
Nah francisco was just being sarcastic but I get what you're saying, Alan. ....
Damn, I'm making it way too easy for you guys... :cool:
 

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comic_relief said:
I love the Guinness commercials

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:up: We were in a club last night and a couple of us started answering any comments on general observations with "BRILLIANT." Not everyone got it at first but people started catching on and we eventually heard people in a couple of different groups doing the same thing. It was pretty damn funny.
 

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SilverSonnet said:
I can see Francisco's point. It DOES seem abit shallow. You should pick your friends on whether you like them. Not what they can do for you.
But the point was that I didn't do it on purpose; I just go to the place a lot so know people there because I have just ended up chatting to them when I have been there other times.
 

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This also works in restaurants, coffee shops, you know. If you want to impress a date, do this at someplace plush or upscale and then bring her in. When they give you your exceptional service, she'll be amazed.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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