What's going on guys ? About 3 months ago I started seeing this girl and at this point i'm pretty deep. She's made it clear that we share mutual feelings and it's been going great since. We've been out on multiple dates, i've met her family and i'm sure you guys can fill in the rest. I'm a university pre-med and she goes to college, we both live in the same city but with med school around the corner for me; we can really only see each other once or twice a week. She has stressed that we can make it work and I truly believe we can. Of course with not seeing each other a lot i'm a little worried about her losing interest, if I'm not in class or studying i'm volunteering at hospitals or working. Anyways, i'm just looking for ways that I can still keep her on her feet, and keep this going even though some weeks we might not see each other until saturday or sunday. She's very understanding of the fact that I'm passionate about my future, and she knows how much school means to me. She's a great girl but as most of you know words alone can't really secure a long-term relationship. I appreciate any help, thanks guys.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Time management with girl
- Thread starter Digidako
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You seem to be confused.
It's the excess of your attention that makes a girl lose interest, not lack of it.
The more a woman knows about her man, the less excited she feels about him.
Once or twice a week is probably perfect timing, with the only drawback being less sex per week than possible (assuming she's your only source of it). Heck, I suggest cancelling some dates with her with a "Change of plans, can't make it on weekend, see you next week" to keep the fire in her loins burning for you.
Corollary, if it is you who is worried she might be out hooking up with other men while you're not with her, then you're doing it wrong.
To put it into perspective, I have been seeing a cute girl for last 11 months, and because I've got a busy life, I see her only once or twice a week as well. So far, she only occasionally whines because of this arrangement, because she'd like to see me more often. Although she is great (not needy, cooks, cleans, great in bed, and actually can hold a conversation with me every so often), I simply really enjoy solitude and "doing-my-thing". Plus, I'm free to hit on other girls for five days a week.
So, a tip for you is keep doing what you are doing, and whatever happens, do not move in with her. Focus on the med-school, on YOUR achievements and how to become a better man, and women will follow.
It's the excess of your attention that makes a girl lose interest, not lack of it.
The more a woman knows about her man, the less excited she feels about him.
Once or twice a week is probably perfect timing, with the only drawback being less sex per week than possible (assuming she's your only source of it). Heck, I suggest cancelling some dates with her with a "Change of plans, can't make it on weekend, see you next week" to keep the fire in her loins burning for you.
Corollary, if it is you who is worried she might be out hooking up with other men while you're not with her, then you're doing it wrong.
To put it into perspective, I have been seeing a cute girl for last 11 months, and because I've got a busy life, I see her only once or twice a week as well. So far, she only occasionally whines because of this arrangement, because she'd like to see me more often. Although she is great (not needy, cooks, cleans, great in bed, and actually can hold a conversation with me every so often), I simply really enjoy solitude and "doing-my-thing". Plus, I'm free to hit on other girls for five days a week.
So, a tip for you is keep doing what you are doing, and whatever happens, do not move in with her. Focus on the med-school, on YOUR achievements and how to become a better man, and women will follow.
Tictac
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Your path comes first.
Who travels it with you comes later.
Who travels it with you comes later.
logicallefty
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Could always invite her to your place to study. Hit the books for a few hours, drink some coffee, and get your work done. Then hit the sheets :rockon: