What's going on guys ? About 3 months ago I started seeing this girl and at this point i'm pretty deep. She's made it clear that we share mutual feelings and it's been going great since. We've been out on multiple dates, i've met her family and i'm sure you guys can fill in the rest. I'm a university pre-med and she goes to college, we both live in the same city but with med school around the corner for me; we can really only see each other once or twice a week. She has stressed that we can make it work and I truly believe we can. Of course with not seeing each other a lot i'm a little worried about her losing interest, if I'm not in class or studying i'm volunteering at hospitals or working. Anyways, i'm just looking for ways that I can still keep her on her feet, and keep this going even though some weeks we might not see each other until saturday or sunday. She's very understanding of the fact that I'm passionate about my future, and she knows how much school means to me. She's a great girl but as most of you know words alone can't really secure a long-term relationship. I appreciate any help, thanks guys.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Time management with girl
- Thread starter Digidako
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You seem to be confused.
It's the excess of your attention that makes a girl lose interest, not lack of it.
The more a woman knows about her man, the less excited she feels about him.
Once or twice a week is probably perfect timing, with the only drawback being less sex per week than possible (assuming she's your only source of it). Heck, I suggest cancelling some dates with her with a "Change of plans, can't make it on weekend, see you next week" to keep the fire in her loins burning for you.
Corollary, if it is you who is worried she might be out hooking up with other men while you're not with her, then you're doing it wrong.
To put it into perspective, I have been seeing a cute girl for last 11 months, and because I've got a busy life, I see her only once or twice a week as well. So far, she only occasionally whines because of this arrangement, because she'd like to see me more often. Although she is great (not needy, cooks, cleans, great in bed, and actually can hold a conversation with me every so often), I simply really enjoy solitude and "doing-my-thing". Plus, I'm free to hit on other girls for five days a week.
So, a tip for you is keep doing what you are doing, and whatever happens, do not move in with her. Focus on the med-school, on YOUR achievements and how to become a better man, and women will follow.
It's the excess of your attention that makes a girl lose interest, not lack of it.
The more a woman knows about her man, the less excited she feels about him.
Once or twice a week is probably perfect timing, with the only drawback being less sex per week than possible (assuming she's your only source of it). Heck, I suggest cancelling some dates with her with a "Change of plans, can't make it on weekend, see you next week" to keep the fire in her loins burning for you.
Corollary, if it is you who is worried she might be out hooking up with other men while you're not with her, then you're doing it wrong.
To put it into perspective, I have been seeing a cute girl for last 11 months, and because I've got a busy life, I see her only once or twice a week as well. So far, she only occasionally whines because of this arrangement, because she'd like to see me more often. Although she is great (not needy, cooks, cleans, great in bed, and actually can hold a conversation with me every so often), I simply really enjoy solitude and "doing-my-thing". Plus, I'm free to hit on other girls for five days a week.
So, a tip for you is keep doing what you are doing, and whatever happens, do not move in with her. Focus on the med-school, on YOUR achievements and how to become a better man, and women will follow.
Tictac
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Your path comes first.
Who travels it with you comes later.
Who travels it with you comes later.
logicallefty
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Could always invite her to your place to study. Hit the books for a few hours, drink some coffee, and get your work done. Then hit the sheets :rockon: