"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Approach #116
This is last Saturday at Super Wal-Mart.
I see an interesting girl. She is in short shorts and high heels and standing out as she does her grocery shopping. I pass in an aisle then meet up with her in yogurt. She smiles at me as I roll up. I ask: "Any suggestions?" Then we start talking about healthy foods, etc. She volunteers 3 or 4 minutes in that her bf is with her and in the store. I wrap up a few minutes later and walk off without closing. I do see her later in the store and she is still solo. I call BS! lol Next! Silver lining: she was older than I thought when I saw that face. Nice body, and wearing skimpy clothes helps, but nothing screams "mid-30s" like crows-feet. I hope you really do have a bf b/c you're pushing it, age-wise. haha
This is last Saturday at Super Wal-Mart.
I see an interesting girl. She is in short shorts and high heels and standing out as she does her grocery shopping. I pass in an aisle then meet up with her in yogurt. She smiles at me as I roll up. I ask: "Any suggestions?" Then we start talking about healthy foods, etc. She volunteers 3 or 4 minutes in that her bf is with her and in the store. I wrap up a few minutes later and walk off without closing. I do see her later in the store and she is still solo. I call BS! lol Next! Silver lining: she was older than I thought when I saw that face. Nice body, and wearing skimpy clothes helps, but nothing screams "mid-30s" like crows-feet. I hope you really do have a bf b/c you're pushing it, age-wise. haha
Approach #117
This is at Super Wal-Mart on Sunday.
See a really cute girl, probably about 25 or 26, in a pretty dress. I roll up on her in produce.
"What are those?"
She was picking out avacados. I didn't know what they were. Man, those are some ugly-looking fruit. Anyhow, start a really solid convo with her. We talk about 10-15 minutes about all kinds of things: school, work, her church, etc. The problem is it is Sunday at Super WM and we are in produce and people are EVERYWHERE! Definitely a distracting environment, although her eyes never left mine. I had to go, so I close and...
#117: "I don't just give my number out. Do you have Facebook?"
Me: "No, I don't have time for that."
#117: ...
Me: "I'll give you my business card. It has my email. Send me an email."
#117: "Ok."
Well, as I type this it is 2 days later and we all know how this story ends. Girls can be so dumb. She will probably complain to her gf, "How come I never meet any nice guys?" And here she had high-quality me and was too dumb to give me her cell number, like that is SO risky. Oh, well. NEXT!
This is at Super Wal-Mart on Sunday.
See a really cute girl, probably about 25 or 26, in a pretty dress. I roll up on her in produce.
"What are those?"
She was picking out avacados. I didn't know what they were. Man, those are some ugly-looking fruit. Anyhow, start a really solid convo with her. We talk about 10-15 minutes about all kinds of things: school, work, her church, etc. The problem is it is Sunday at Super WM and we are in produce and people are EVERYWHERE! Definitely a distracting environment, although her eyes never left mine. I had to go, so I close and...
#117: "I don't just give my number out. Do you have Facebook?"
Me: "No, I don't have time for that."
#117: ...
Me: "I'll give you my business card. It has my email. Send me an email."
#117: "Ok."
Well, as I type this it is 2 days later and we all know how this story ends. Girls can be so dumb. She will probably complain to her gf, "How come I never meet any nice guys?" And here she had high-quality me and was too dumb to give me her cell number, like that is SO risky. Oh, well. NEXT!
Approach #118
This is Saturday at Home Goods. I had earlier in the day spent a few hours between B&N, Borders, Super Target, and TJ Maxx looking for targets to no avail.
At Home Goods I see a very cute girl looking intently at throw rugs. I meander through the close-by artwork area, and we lock eyes once for a moment. I am trying to think of how to open a girl looking at throw rugs, and of course draw a blank in the heat of the moment. Plus a herd of non-English speaking people flow into her aisle and it just looks nearly impossible.
She goes to leave (or move to a very different part of the store) but pauses for a moment in an aisle on the way. I loop around and enter her aisle.
Lucky for me she had a nice prop.
Me: What's that thing?
#118: It's a lantern. You put the citronella oil in here, and here is the wick.
Me: blah blah
#118: blah
Silence
Me: Hey, let me ask you a question. Launch into housewarming opener.
Her: blah blah (a sincere but brief response)
Silence
Me: Well, I'm glad I asked you. You look like you have a keen sense of style. I like your... are those little dangly things on your boots or on your pants?
#118: On my boots. Where I work it's really cold so that's why I'm wearing boots in August in Florida.
Note: this girl has swagger. She was dressed very stylishly (as was I, btw, thanks to a new wardrobe). There was an almost sexual vibe from the get go, and I know she knew I was checking her out from when we locked eyes before the approach (second note: i almost always approach w/o eye contract so do not use the lack thereof as an excuse not to approach) and she knew the housewarming opener was BS. But she was happy to be gamed. She took, I think, the boot comment as a NEG when I did not intend it as such. I think that amped her attraction.
We talk for a moment about where she works (I am familiar with the place), and she let's her smart-@ss, witty personality shine. We just click from there.
We sort of meander the store for 30 minutes or so making fun of stuff and having a good time. Half-way through I get her number. I am fairly certain if I didn't already have plans I could have insta-dated her right into the closest bar.
I wanted to call today (the next day) but literally didn't have time. I have my fingers crossed that this one will not be a flake. We shall see...
This is Saturday at Home Goods. I had earlier in the day spent a few hours between B&N, Borders, Super Target, and TJ Maxx looking for targets to no avail.
At Home Goods I see a very cute girl looking intently at throw rugs. I meander through the close-by artwork area, and we lock eyes once for a moment. I am trying to think of how to open a girl looking at throw rugs, and of course draw a blank in the heat of the moment. Plus a herd of non-English speaking people flow into her aisle and it just looks nearly impossible.
She goes to leave (or move to a very different part of the store) but pauses for a moment in an aisle on the way. I loop around and enter her aisle.
Lucky for me she had a nice prop.
Me: What's that thing?
#118: It's a lantern. You put the citronella oil in here, and here is the wick.
Me: blah blah
#118: blah
Silence
Me: Hey, let me ask you a question. Launch into housewarming opener.
Her: blah blah (a sincere but brief response)
Silence
Me: Well, I'm glad I asked you. You look like you have a keen sense of style. I like your... are those little dangly things on your boots or on your pants?
#118: On my boots. Where I work it's really cold so that's why I'm wearing boots in August in Florida.
Note: this girl has swagger. She was dressed very stylishly (as was I, btw, thanks to a new wardrobe). There was an almost sexual vibe from the get go, and I know she knew I was checking her out from when we locked eyes before the approach (second note: i almost always approach w/o eye contract so do not use the lack thereof as an excuse not to approach) and she knew the housewarming opener was BS. But she was happy to be gamed. She took, I think, the boot comment as a NEG when I did not intend it as such. I think that amped her attraction.
We talk for a moment about where she works (I am familiar with the place), and she let's her smart-@ss, witty personality shine. We just click from there.
We sort of meander the store for 30 minutes or so making fun of stuff and having a good time. Half-way through I get her number. I am fairly certain if I didn't already have plans I could have insta-dated her right into the closest bar.
I wanted to call today (the next day) but literally didn't have time. I have my fingers crossed that this one will not be a flake. We shall see...
Updated stats
First, #117 never emailed. Big surprise.
Second, after 3 dates and a combined 10 hours and $50 spent, with the last date involving a parking lot make out and my hand up her skirt on her ass, #101 flaked. No returned calls, no returned texts, totally flaked. Biotch.
Third, banged #104 tonight. Yay. It took 4 dates! Grrrr...
So....
Stats since i started the re-numbering in 9/2009:
Cold Approaches: 118
Phone Numbers: 35
Email Addresses: 3
Dates: 12 (only count once even if multiple dates same girl)
BJs: 1 (do not count if got BJ and lay, only count as lay)
Lays: 7 (only count once, even if she is a repeat customer)
First, #117 never emailed. Big surprise.
Second, after 3 dates and a combined 10 hours and $50 spent, with the last date involving a parking lot make out and my hand up her skirt on her ass, #101 flaked. No returned calls, no returned texts, totally flaked. Biotch.
Third, banged #104 tonight. Yay. It took 4 dates! Grrrr...
So....
Stats since i started the re-numbering in 9/2009:
Cold Approaches: 118
Phone Numbers: 35
Email Addresses: 3
Dates: 12 (only count once even if multiple dates same girl)
BJs: 1 (do not count if got BJ and lay, only count as lay)
Lays: 7 (only count once, even if she is a repeat customer)
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Approach #119
See a cute girl at WM. She is probably 21 or 22, maybe 23 or 24 max. She is in the little food section. This is not a Super WM. I pu$$y out a few times then finally approach. Ask her an opinion about what snacks to take to a fictional housewarming party. Fairly easy transition to personal stuff.
She lives in the area (this is not near my usual WMs, and it more of a blue-collar type area) and mentions "we" when describing her apt. I ask if she has roommates, and she says, "Umm, no. I mean, I live with my bf, but we aren't getting along too well."
I don't see this as an objection, and continue the chat up as usual. Close for the # and she is about to give it up then asks for mine instead, saying her bf checks her phone. I give her mine, then she proceeds to call me so I have hers. Umm, ok. lol. Anyhow, I tell her I won't pester her and she promises to call me. YEAH, RIGHT, SHE WILL.
I will text or call her in a few days and proceed as if she is single. We shall see...
See a cute girl at WM. She is probably 21 or 22, maybe 23 or 24 max. She is in the little food section. This is not a Super WM. I pu$$y out a few times then finally approach. Ask her an opinion about what snacks to take to a fictional housewarming party. Fairly easy transition to personal stuff.
She lives in the area (this is not near my usual WMs, and it more of a blue-collar type area) and mentions "we" when describing her apt. I ask if she has roommates, and she says, "Umm, no. I mean, I live with my bf, but we aren't getting along too well."
I don't see this as an objection, and continue the chat up as usual. Close for the # and she is about to give it up then asks for mine instead, saying her bf checks her phone. I give her mine, then she proceeds to call me so I have hers. Umm, ok. lol. Anyhow, I tell her I won't pester her and she promises to call me. YEAH, RIGHT, SHE WILL.
I will text or call her in a few days and proceed as if she is single. We shall see...
Approach #120
This is at Super WM today.
Round One: I go through the store doing my shopping and the only sargeable person is in the shampoo aisle. I size her up for like 60 seconds deciding whether I would bang her or not. Lucky for her she stays around long enough. She is not someone I'd date (too old), but I decide I'd hit it so then I muster up the nuts and approach. Opened with housewarming gift opener.
EASY transition to personal, blah blah blah about her whole life story, recently divorced, just moved to the area, she is 2 years older than me (BARF!), blah blah blah. This one won't shut up. My damn milk is getting warm in the cart, biotch.
Finally shut her up long enough to get the #, she wants mine, too, so I give it to her. 2 hours later she calls and leaves a message. Didn't call her back. I have other sh!t going on tonight. I'm super booked all this week, but I need to cut to the chase with this one and strike while that iron is hot. I've got my fingers crossed...
Round Two:
I forgot the Mucinex DM I told my dad I'd pick up for him. So I go back in like 15 minutes after I leave. I go straight to the drug section and get my stuff and head to the check out. I get in line and as I am about to be rung up I see an angelic, very HOT girl get in line 3 people behind me. Just my damn luck. Why wasn't she there earlier???? Oh, well. She was the kind of girl I've been waiting for. But it's only a matter of time until I am at the right place at the right time.
This is at Super WM today.
Round One: I go through the store doing my shopping and the only sargeable person is in the shampoo aisle. I size her up for like 60 seconds deciding whether I would bang her or not. Lucky for her she stays around long enough. She is not someone I'd date (too old), but I decide I'd hit it so then I muster up the nuts and approach. Opened with housewarming gift opener.
EASY transition to personal, blah blah blah about her whole life story, recently divorced, just moved to the area, she is 2 years older than me (BARF!), blah blah blah. This one won't shut up. My damn milk is getting warm in the cart, biotch.
Finally shut her up long enough to get the #, she wants mine, too, so I give it to her. 2 hours later she calls and leaves a message. Didn't call her back. I have other sh!t going on tonight. I'm super booked all this week, but I need to cut to the chase with this one and strike while that iron is hot. I've got my fingers crossed...
Round Two:
I forgot the Mucinex DM I told my dad I'd pick up for him. So I go back in like 15 minutes after I leave. I go straight to the drug section and get my stuff and head to the check out. I get in line and as I am about to be rung up I see an angelic, very HOT girl get in line 3 people behind me. Just my damn luck. Why wasn't she there earlier???? Oh, well. She was the kind of girl I've been waiting for. But it's only a matter of time until I am at the right place at the right time.
Composite Approach #121
I've been busy with work, but still make it out there. Been in a dry spell without any quality approaches last 10 days.
Here are a few samplings:
At Borders today, see a hot (yet I find out DUMB) young one. I open her on what she is looking for. She is looking for the Satanic Bible.
I keep on for a second asking her what it is about and she has no clue. A warpig butts in and tells her what it is about. Total CB. Dumb target decides she doesn't want the book and promptly leaves.
At Ross today, and open a woman on the housewarming opener. I opened but once I got a look at that face I was outta there! Yikes! :woo:
Last weekend I had a few go-nowhere openers in bookstores. Blown out right away. Blah...
I've been busy with work, but still make it out there. Been in a dry spell without any quality approaches last 10 days.
Here are a few samplings:
At Borders today, see a hot (yet I find out DUMB) young one. I open her on what she is looking for. She is looking for the Satanic Bible.
I keep on for a second asking her what it is about and she has no clue. A warpig butts in and tells her what it is about. Total CB. Dumb target decides she doesn't want the book and promptly leaves.
At Ross today, and open a woman on the housewarming opener. I opened but once I got a look at that face I was outta there! Yikes! :woo:
Last weekend I had a few go-nowhere openers in bookstores. Blown out right away. Blah...
First of all let me say this..you are fvcking amazing bro. You are my new hero! I can't believe you're still on this post after 5 years! It seems like you go out gaming every day/night, looking for approaches, how many times a week on average would you say you go out trying to get approaches? Also, I haven't read through all your posts yet (but i will), but how much have you changed since you first started this? Confidence wise, your ability to straight up approach, how good you are talking/approaching compared to when you started? Just wondering this stuff lol
I was also noticing that you never approach by introducing yourself. When are you actually telling her your name? I would assume that it is in the first 1 or 5 lines you say to her. I'm just wondering because I usually think of approaching by introducing myself.
Good job bro!!!
I was also noticing that you never approach by introducing yourself. When are you actually telling her your name? I would assume that it is in the first 1 or 5 lines you say to her. I'm just wondering because I usually think of approaching by introducing myself.
Whatever happened to this girl??tihash said:
Good job bro!!!
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
^^^
Try different things and see what works for you. I usually ask a girl her name at some point if the convo keeps up longer than 2 minutes, and then I will introduce myself at that point.
It's been off and on for 5 years... I've had exclusive LTRs for the bulk of the time and thus no approaches.
I generally only do daytime and go out (currently) 2-3 times a week for a couple of hours each time. I try to tie it in with doing errands that need to be done anyhow.
At 33, I'm not into the smoke, alcohol, and late hours associated with night game. At any age, I was never really into the poseurs, attention *****s, ***** shields, and competition associated with night game.
BUT, I must say that at night you can go to one hot spot and find 5 to 10 HB8s or higher all in one place at one time. It may take you 3 weeks to find that many in daygame. I am torn!
***
The Homegoods girl and I went out twice. She is really cute, but is older than me (how old I do not know) and her attention span is like that of a flea. She is also a partier. Don't get me wrong, I would bang her, but she flaked on date 2 by showing up late, proclaiming she was tired, turning me down for a meet-up at my house (made me meet her at a bar), turning me down for my offer to pick her up (made me meet her there), and then after 75 minutes saying she was tired and wanting to leave. She didn't return a subsequent call. Blah. Maybe there's a reason she is 35ish and and good looking and never married...
Try different things and see what works for you. I usually ask a girl her name at some point if the convo keeps up longer than 2 minutes, and then I will introduce myself at that point.
It's been off and on for 5 years... I've had exclusive LTRs for the bulk of the time and thus no approaches.
I generally only do daytime and go out (currently) 2-3 times a week for a couple of hours each time. I try to tie it in with doing errands that need to be done anyhow.
At 33, I'm not into the smoke, alcohol, and late hours associated with night game. At any age, I was never really into the poseurs, attention *****s, ***** shields, and competition associated with night game.
BUT, I must say that at night you can go to one hot spot and find 5 to 10 HB8s or higher all in one place at one time. It may take you 3 weeks to find that many in daygame. I am torn!
***
The Homegoods girl and I went out twice. She is really cute, but is older than me (how old I do not know) and her attention span is like that of a flea. She is also a partier. Don't get me wrong, I would bang her, but she flaked on date 2 by showing up late, proclaiming she was tired, turning me down for a meet-up at my house (made me meet her at a bar), turning me down for my offer to pick her up (made me meet her there), and then after 75 minutes saying she was tired and wanting to leave. She didn't return a subsequent call. Blah. Maybe there's a reason she is 35ish and and good looking and never married...
Approach #122
I had to go to the courthouse today for something for work. The clerk who helped me was cute. Tried talking and she wasn't cold but wasn't all chitchatty either.
I was going to go for the digits anyhow but when she was finishing my stuff up there were no other customers in the room, you could hear a pin drop, and I know her co-workers could hear every word. In other words, I pussed out.
I felt bad about it afterwards. Then I said, f-this. When I got back to work, I called the courthouse, asked for her, and then re-introduced myself on the phone. I said I didn't want to embarrass her in front of her co-workers, but I thought she was really cute and if she was single wanted to ask her out for a drink. She sounded flustered and said she had a bf. Fair enough. I'm glad I had a second chance with this one.
Shame on me for caring what other ppl think. But I'm glad I turned it around.
I had to go to the courthouse today for something for work. The clerk who helped me was cute. Tried talking and she wasn't cold but wasn't all chitchatty either.
I was going to go for the digits anyhow but when she was finishing my stuff up there were no other customers in the room, you could hear a pin drop, and I know her co-workers could hear every word. In other words, I pussed out.
I felt bad about it afterwards. Then I said, f-this. When I got back to work, I called the courthouse, asked for her, and then re-introduced myself on the phone. I said I didn't want to embarrass her in front of her co-workers, but I thought she was really cute and if she was single wanted to ask her out for a drink. She sounded flustered and said she had a bf. Fair enough. I'm glad I had a second chance with this one.
Shame on me for caring what other ppl think. But I'm glad I turned it around.
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awesome!tihash said:
what would you say the quality of these girls are? 7+ hb's? average girls? ugs? lol.
^^^^
They are all cute/pretty/whatever you want to call it. Some are hot. I'm not ashamed to be seen in public with any of them. I only want to settle down with a true gem, so not all of them would qualify for LTR, but they are all cute enough, in shape, etc. No warpigs. I only talk to girls I would bang. =)
They are all cute/pretty/whatever you want to call it. Some are hot. I'm not ashamed to be seen in public with any of them. I only want to settle down with a true gem, so not all of them would qualify for LTR, but they are all cute enough, in shape, etc. No warpigs. I only talk to girls I would bang. =)
Composite Approach #123
This is at Marshall's today.
One girl is dashing about in the home decor section. I eventually open her. After 3-4 minutes she tells me she has to run and blows me off. Ouch! Well, not really. Next!
Another girl is milling about in home decor a few minutes later. I open her. We talk for a minute and she is all smiles. Turns out she works there! She is shopping on her day off. I knew I recognized her! This creeps me out because I like this Marshall's and it is close to where I live and she is not worth having weird thoughts in my head each time I go in. So I politely end the convo. I didn't want to close and be branded as The Guy Who Comes Here to Pick Up.
This is at Marshall's today.
One girl is dashing about in the home decor section. I eventually open her. After 3-4 minutes she tells me she has to run and blows me off. Ouch! Well, not really. Next!
Another girl is milling about in home decor a few minutes later. I open her. We talk for a minute and she is all smiles. Turns out she works there! She is shopping on her day off. I knew I recognized her! This creeps me out because I like this Marshall's and it is close to where I live and she is not worth having weird thoughts in my head each time I go in. So I politely end the convo. I didn't want to close and be branded as The Guy Who Comes Here to Pick Up.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Does Anyone Sarge In Women's Clothing Section???
Same Marshall's and same time as #123, above.
See a gorgeous thing in the women's clothing section. I mean the kind of girl that is just gorgeous. But I just can't get my head in the proper place to walk up to a girl in a section of the store I have no business being in.
I am ok with home decor.
I am ok with handbags (I am shopping for a gift)
I am ok with jewelry (I am shopping for a gift)
But I would feel so weird in women's clothes.
After I leave with me head hung low, I realize I could have done the old, "I was just on my way out of here and noticed you. I had to come meet you. What's your name?"
But is there a better way????
Same Marshall's and same time as #123, above.
See a gorgeous thing in the women's clothing section. I mean the kind of girl that is just gorgeous. But I just can't get my head in the proper place to walk up to a girl in a section of the store I have no business being in.
I am ok with home decor.
I am ok with handbags (I am shopping for a gift)
I am ok with jewelry (I am shopping for a gift)
But I would feel so weird in women's clothes.
After I leave with me head hung low, I realize I could have done the old, "I was just on my way out of here and noticed you. I had to come meet you. What's your name?"
But is there a better way????
Approach #124
At Super WM today.
Slim pickings. The only sargeable girl is cute, tall, dark hair and eyes, and with a nice booty, and she passes me in the HABA section on her way all the way across the store to the food section. I'd guess she is between 24 and 27.
I see her in produce eventually, but puss out and walk past her as she is looking at fruit salad.
Fortunately for me, I catch up to her as she is looking over the Kashi granola bars in another aisle. A healthy eater. I like.
I open her on whether she has had them before. Easy convo, we talk food, etc. I transition to work talk, personal things, blah blah. A nice 10-15 minute convo right there in the aisle as people keep saying "Excuse me" and muscle past with their carts. Her eyes never leave mine, which I take as a good sign. She is witty, which is worth extra points. She readily gives up the number. We shall see...
At Super WM today.
Slim pickings. The only sargeable girl is cute, tall, dark hair and eyes, and with a nice booty, and she passes me in the HABA section on her way all the way across the store to the food section. I'd guess she is between 24 and 27.
I see her in produce eventually, but puss out and walk past her as she is looking at fruit salad.
Fortunately for me, I catch up to her as she is looking over the Kashi granola bars in another aisle. A healthy eater. I like.
I open her on whether she has had them before. Easy convo, we talk food, etc. I transition to work talk, personal things, blah blah. A nice 10-15 minute convo right there in the aisle as people keep saying "Excuse me" and muscle past with their carts. Her eyes never leave mine, which I take as a good sign. She is witty, which is worth extra points. She readily gives up the number. We shall see...
Approach #125
This is Wednesday of last week at SUper WM.
I see a girl with an awesome body and cute face... short skirt, tight top with big boobs. She does not have a cart and is meandering around, seemingly aimlessly.
I pass a couple of opportunities (rusty!) to talk to her, then finally open her in greeting cards. She doesn't seem too talkative, then I prod and ask whose bday she is getting a card for and it is her bf. He is turning 24. Happy Bday, bro! lol
Next!
This is Wednesday of last week at SUper WM.
I see a girl with an awesome body and cute face... short skirt, tight top with big boobs. She does not have a cart and is meandering around, seemingly aimlessly.
I pass a couple of opportunities (rusty!) to talk to her, then finally open her in greeting cards. She doesn't seem too talkative, then I prod and ask whose bday she is getting a card for and it is her bf. He is turning 24. Happy Bday, bro! lol
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Approach #126
This is yesterday at Marshall's.
I see a women with a pretty face and awesome body in her workout attire in the store. I pass her by and she notices me... she is looking at the lotions and bath soaps, etc.
I puss out but she goes to home decor. I engage her in the aisle for help with a housewarming gift. BAM!~ She opens right up, ultra-friendly. She has BEAUTIFUL boobs (I think they are fake) and they are like two wonderful treasures from heaven all pushed up in her workout attire.
It turns out she is turning 40 later this year. :woo:
Obviously not someone I want to date (even though she looks 30 in my opinion) but hell yeah I want to bang her. She gave up the number easily. We shall see...
This is yesterday at Marshall's.
I see a women with a pretty face and awesome body in her workout attire in the store. I pass her by and she notices me... she is looking at the lotions and bath soaps, etc.
I puss out but she goes to home decor. I engage her in the aisle for help with a housewarming gift. BAM!~ She opens right up, ultra-friendly. She has BEAUTIFUL boobs (I think they are fake) and they are like two wonderful treasures from heaven all pushed up in her workout attire.
It turns out she is turning 40 later this year. :woo:
Obviously not someone I want to date (even though she looks 30 in my opinion) but hell yeah I want to bang her. She gave up the number easily. We shall see...
Approach #127
This is today at B&N.
See a very pretty girl in the fiction aisle on the lone, uncomfortable wooden chair there.
I get in her aisle and browse for a minute or two (WAY too long!) before opening her. She is taking notes on her book. I ask if it is for work or school, and she says both. Hmmm... not much to go on. I then re-open about a fiction recommendation for my fictional friend who reads lots of fiction. I then get her talking. She works for an architect and as part of her duties she need to revamp the firm's website. We talk way longer than I thought (30 min+) and she mentioned a few times she recently got out of a 5-year LTR. She is pretty and cute as a button and seemed kinda shy and I would guess is about 25 or 26.
When I found out what time it was I had to jet because the Sam's Club pharmacy closes at 6 today and they are closed BOTH Sunday and Monday for Labor Day-- can you believe that sh1t? Good thing they called me today to remind me my prescription was ready (I called in the refill a few days ago and intended to pick it up tomorrow). I would have run out of pills for 2 days if I didn't make it there today.
My point is I would have liked to have talked to her more but had to close and then cut and run. She gave up her number is a mildly hushed tone, then volunteered, "I don't normally give my number out like this." I replied: "I don't normally run into someone randomly like this where I want to see you again."
YEAH RIGHT! That freakin' B&N is the epicenter of my social life. lol. And not a damn thing about the encounter was random, except for the fact she was in that store when I walked in.
Anyhow, I like this one a lot but we shall see...
EDIT 2 days later: We txt back and forth, all is well, until I try to get her to commit to a night this week for a date. Then she flakes. GRRRR!
This is today at B&N.
See a very pretty girl in the fiction aisle on the lone, uncomfortable wooden chair there.
I get in her aisle and browse for a minute or two (WAY too long!) before opening her. She is taking notes on her book. I ask if it is for work or school, and she says both. Hmmm... not much to go on. I then re-open about a fiction recommendation for my fictional friend who reads lots of fiction. I then get her talking. She works for an architect and as part of her duties she need to revamp the firm's website. We talk way longer than I thought (30 min+) and she mentioned a few times she recently got out of a 5-year LTR. She is pretty and cute as a button and seemed kinda shy and I would guess is about 25 or 26.
When I found out what time it was I had to jet because the Sam's Club pharmacy closes at 6 today and they are closed BOTH Sunday and Monday for Labor Day-- can you believe that sh1t? Good thing they called me today to remind me my prescription was ready (I called in the refill a few days ago and intended to pick it up tomorrow). I would have run out of pills for 2 days if I didn't make it there today.
My point is I would have liked to have talked to her more but had to close and then cut and run. She gave up her number is a mildly hushed tone, then volunteered, "I don't normally give my number out like this." I replied: "I don't normally run into someone randomly like this where I want to see you again."
YEAH RIGHT! That freakin' B&N is the epicenter of my social life. lol. And not a damn thing about the encounter was random, except for the fact she was in that store when I walked in.
Anyhow, I like this one a lot but we shall see...
EDIT 2 days later: We txt back and forth, all is well, until I try to get her to commit to a night this week for a date. Then she flakes. GRRRR!
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.