"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Throwing Huge Parties
- Thread starter crossboss
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Scars
Master Don Juan
For my birthday I bought one keg, and the rest of my friends pitched in for another one. We also charged anybody who came a couple bucks and would hand them a cup. I made about half of my money back, which isn't too bad considering it was a wild night.
The key is preparation. You have to be sending invites weeks in advanced. People knew about my party 3 weeks before it even happened. I also invited EVERYBODY. I hit up old friends on myspace, if I ran into people I would tell them about it, handed my number out a lot, told people to spread the word.. etc.. I can honestly say I invited over 100+ people. And the turn out (when it was at it's peak) was probably about 60 people. I'd say half of those people were people I actually invited, the others were people I didn't know who heard about it and jumped on the band wagon. So the more people you invite, the more your turn out rate should be. Don't be disappointed if people don't come. Don't be blowing up your buddies telling them "where you at". You left everybody else do that for you. If the party is good, people will want to bring their friends. Also, invite as many girls as you can. All your cute friends. Girls will keep the guys around, and the girls even longer. If you have a sausage fest party then it will show that your value is low. People will get bored, and leave. People go to parties to get drunk and hook up. Girls love competition. If a girl shows up anywhere and automatically knows she is the hottest girl there, she will be a b!tch and boring, ensue drama, and annoy people to the point of leaving. If you have a good number of cute girls, it evens the playing field a bit. There will be a lot of competitiveness, and it actually allows people more opportunity to hook up. Not just because the numbers are higher, but simply because competition will put a girl in her place. You've got to have them all fighting to be queen bee.
So plan weeks in advance. Get the word out asap. And invite a ridiculous amount of people. Expect about only half of the people you invite to show up. So if you want 30 people to come, expect to invite about 60-75 people. And make sure that there is plenty of alcohol for everybody. Do not run out. There's also little details such as music and stuff, but it's not really all that important. The PEOPLE are what make the party. Wouldn't be a bad idea to have a good DJ though. Or just make a playlist on your ipod and hook it up to some stereos. That's what I do.
Good luck.
-Scars
If you build it they will come!
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Scars said:
Great Advice. I think I should bring 90% girls. I have thrown a couple of parties in the past, when I was younger. Most of the time, it was about 10 guys and zero girls. So, I guess, I need to do work on making close lady friends. The problem is, if they need to be decent friends for them to show up. I can't rely, on my guy friends to bring girls. It will make me look bad. So, if I invite a lot girls it will be less likely to be a sausage fest.