my gf and i have been together for about 6-7 months, the relationship is decent, and so on. my dilemma is this; she has been acting weird lately(past week), if i had to explain it i would say that she is trying to act like she doesn't care, saying she'll call when she doesn't(never used to do this), very minimal details about everything, we only hang out once in a while, etc. the list goes on, now as i typed that it sounded like someone that is cheating, but i really don't think she is, however i could be wrong. what could i do to get a better understanding of what she is doing, thinking, etc? also what could i do to throw her a curve, she didn't call one day until later around 9:30 and asked me why i never called all day, i said i was busy, things similar to this?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
throw my gf a curve
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Hitman10000
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The next time you see her in person, have a talk about this.
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Do some reconnaissance!!
DoubleC
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She's probably hiding SOMETHING, even if it's not cheating. Like hitman said, confront her about it face to face.
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truthDoubleC said:
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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If you want the truth then DON'T confront her!!! Do reconnaissance!!!
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im starting to see that there are actual dj's on here.
MacDiddy
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Why even bother with recon... She's cheating and you don't need to know the cold truth.... just make plans to move on and you will have very little emotional trauma.... She deserves better and you better not get in her way.
But mark my words... if you don't move on and if you must know the truth... prepare for a roller coaster ride.
But mark my words... if you don't move on and if you must know the truth... prepare for a roller coaster ride.
frivolousz21
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its a hard position to be in...you should start getting your mind set on things not working.
I can tell you when you are in a relationship for that long this wouldnt happen if things were right.
you should start planning on a future without her....and see if you can find out whats going and fix it..if you cant..understand that its ok...and there are MILLIONS of women out there
I can tell you when you are in a relationship for that long this wouldnt happen if things were right.
you should start planning on a future without her....and see if you can find out whats going and fix it..if you cant..understand that its ok...and there are MILLIONS of women out there
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
ya thanks for the tips so far, i am pretty good at telling if someone is cheating because unfortunately i used to it also, and i will say if she is cheating she has me fooled.
shes like this one or two days, and then fine for a few days, and so on. should i give her less attention? will this get her attention? if not what will?
shes like this one or two days, and then fine for a few days, and so on. should i give her less attention? will this get her attention? if not what will?
Man, it could be anything. All relationships are going to have their dull moments, and it's just inevitable. If you're young (under 25) don't invest too much time doing reconnaissance work. If you know what to expect if she's cheating, then you will know.
Talk to her briefly and just let her know that if she needs to talk about something or needs help that you will be there. Then leave it alone.
You would have accomplished a few things:
1. Since you claim you can spot a cheater just look for things that would tip you off. You are already experienced enough to determine if she's stepping out on you. If that's the case move on.
2. If she isn't cheating she can count on you, without you constantly nagging her. You don't want to appear needy.
3. By the way enjoy life. Continue enjoying yourself and friends, because she may not be the one, and you might want to find other "girlfriends".
Talk to her briefly and just let her know that if she needs to talk about something or needs help that you will be there. Then leave it alone.
You would have accomplished a few things:
1. Since you claim you can spot a cheater just look for things that would tip you off. You are already experienced enough to determine if she's stepping out on you. If that's the case move on.
2. If she isn't cheating she can count on you, without you constantly nagging her. You don't want to appear needy.
3. By the way enjoy life. Continue enjoying yourself and friends, because she may not be the one, and you might want to find other "girlfriends".
frivolousz21
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If you live in Toronto or NYCmrRuckus said:
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
justsomeguy1984
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As others have said, do NOT confront her. Confronting any woman about a relationship problem will just make things worse.
I don't think she is necessarily cheating on you (although it is possible), but it sounds to me like she is maybe getting a little bored with the relationship. Try to be spontaneous and do some new things.
I don't think she is necessarily cheating on you (although it is possible), but it sounds to me like she is maybe getting a little bored with the relationship. Try to be spontaneous and do some new things.
In2theGame
Master Don Juan
Forget curve ball. Throw her a F---King Screwball followed by a Bean ball. If shes treating you like garbage, Then its time to tell her to take a flying leap and go get yourself two cuties sitting on your lap while sipping in a barcardi O.swaptrex said:
ya i am not going to stress about it to much due to the fact i am enrolled in a college in the top party schools for fall 07, however i do like her and wished we could just have fun without her being a *****. sometimes i think about breaking up with her, but then she starts in with the "i love you so much" and the crying. i guess i will just have to work on things and hope for the best possible outcome.