"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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three months...and she isn't giving it up

hopeful loner

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She's a virgin.

And she doesn't seem to eager for me to isolate her...so she just says she doesn't want to lie to her parents as to where she's going.

Anyway, she's very cute and I sense that she has feelings for me but I'm wondering what the best way is for me to comminicate dissatisfaction at our lack of sex w/o coming of as desperate. Isn't even safe to broach the subject in conversation...?:confused:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by coolguy676767
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I've been thinking about that...

Except that it seems she really does like me...
 

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Originally posted by hopeful loner
I've been thinking about that...

Except that it seems she really does like me...
Yeah but you could waste another 3 months, think about how much time you have already used on her, that you could have been getting other girls with. Unless you want a LTR with her then next her ass soon.
 

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Originally posted by coolguy676767
Yeah but you could waste another 3 months, think about how much time you have already used on her, that you could have been getting other girls with. Unless you want a LTR with her then next her ass soon.
Well I am sort of in an LTR with her already. :/
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Originally posted by hopeful loner
Well I am sort of in an LTR with her already. :/
Well then you have 2 choices, either next her or start liking her for her and respect that she hasnt given it up.

Its up to you, only you can decide that. There is nothing wrong with truely likeing a girl and having LTR even if she doesnt put out, but you just have to make sure your alright with that.
 

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hit up other girls while at the same time warming up this one
 

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Originally posted by john_1234
hit up other girls while at the same time warming up this one
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This is the only thing you can do if you plan on waiting personally if she is taking this long I would have nexted but thats just me. You obviously want to stay with her because you waited 3 months already. So just have some Fbs on the side, or else your going to be wasting months of not getting any pusvy.

How did you start the LTR without having sex first????
How the hell is she LTR if yall didn't fuvk, but then again if its HS then I understand because alot of guys I've seen go out with girls and don't fuvk until a year or so which is mind boggling.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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