"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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three months...and she isn't giving it up

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She's a virgin.

And she doesn't seem to eager for me to isolate her...so she just says she doesn't want to lie to her parents as to where she's going.

Anyway, she's very cute and I sense that she has feelings for me but I'm wondering what the best way is for me to comminicate dissatisfaction at our lack of sex w/o coming of as desperate. Isn't even safe to broach the subject in conversation...?:confused:
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Originally posted by coolguy676767
NEXT
I've been thinking about that...

Except that it seems she really does like me...
 

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Originally posted by hopeful loner
I've been thinking about that...

Except that it seems she really does like me...
Yeah but you could waste another 3 months, think about how much time you have already used on her, that you could have been getting other girls with. Unless you want a LTR with her then next her ass soon.
 

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Originally posted by coolguy676767
Yeah but you could waste another 3 months, think about how much time you have already used on her, that you could have been getting other girls with. Unless you want a LTR with her then next her ass soon.
Well I am sort of in an LTR with her already. :/
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally posted by hopeful loner
Well I am sort of in an LTR with her already. :/
Well then you have 2 choices, either next her or start liking her for her and respect that she hasnt given it up.

Its up to you, only you can decide that. There is nothing wrong with truely likeing a girl and having LTR even if she doesnt put out, but you just have to make sure your alright with that.
 

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hit up other girls while at the same time warming up this one
 

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Originally posted by john_1234
hit up other girls while at the same time warming up this one
Cosign
This is the only thing you can do if you plan on waiting personally if she is taking this long I would have nexted but thats just me. You obviously want to stay with her because you waited 3 months already. So just have some Fbs on the side, or else your going to be wasting months of not getting any pusvy.

How did you start the LTR without having sex first????
How the hell is she LTR if yall didn't fuvk, but then again if its HS then I understand because alot of guys I've seen go out with girls and don't fuvk until a year or so which is mind boggling.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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