"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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three months...and she isn't giving it up

hopeful loner

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She's a virgin.

And she doesn't seem to eager for me to isolate her...so she just says she doesn't want to lie to her parents as to where she's going.

Anyway, she's very cute and I sense that she has feelings for me but I'm wondering what the best way is for me to comminicate dissatisfaction at our lack of sex w/o coming of as desperate. Isn't even safe to broach the subject in conversation...?:confused:
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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NEXT
 

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Originally posted by coolguy676767
NEXT
I've been thinking about that...

Except that it seems she really does like me...
 

coolguy676767

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Originally posted by hopeful loner
I've been thinking about that...

Except that it seems she really does like me...
Yeah but you could waste another 3 months, think about how much time you have already used on her, that you could have been getting other girls with. Unless you want a LTR with her then next her ass soon.
 

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Originally posted by coolguy676767
Yeah but you could waste another 3 months, think about how much time you have already used on her, that you could have been getting other girls with. Unless you want a LTR with her then next her ass soon.
Well I am sort of in an LTR with her already. :/
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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coolguy676767

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Originally posted by hopeful loner
Well I am sort of in an LTR with her already. :/
Well then you have 2 choices, either next her or start liking her for her and respect that she hasnt given it up.

Its up to you, only you can decide that. There is nothing wrong with truely likeing a girl and having LTR even if she doesnt put out, but you just have to make sure your alright with that.
 

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hit up other girls while at the same time warming up this one
 

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Originally posted by john_1234
hit up other girls while at the same time warming up this one
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This is the only thing you can do if you plan on waiting personally if she is taking this long I would have nexted but thats just me. You obviously want to stay with her because you waited 3 months already. So just have some Fbs on the side, or else your going to be wasting months of not getting any pusvy.

How did you start the LTR without having sex first????
How the hell is she LTR if yall didn't fuvk, but then again if its HS then I understand because alot of guys I've seen go out with girls and don't fuvk until a year or so which is mind boggling.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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