"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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AgentRice

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so i dumped my girlfriend back in march when she was actin up and hiding **** from me. and at that point she started dating a military guy.. he left for iraq and since shes been talkin with me and hanging out. and honestly we have more fun now that i see us as just friends. but she gets weirded out when i tell her about the other women i see and how much better me and her are as friends and always tries to change the subject.

So i brought that up 2 her and shes like IDK, im like well u moved on and are in a relationship and its like u dont want to see me in one. Shes told her b/f that shes hung out with me but he doesnt know how much and that its been just me and her alone a lot of the time and even at her house. She talks to me all the time and we chill pretty frequently.

whenever i leave at night she gives me a big hug like she used to when we dated..

IDK what to take from this or how to handle it.. any insight is appreciated
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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AgentRice

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damn no thoughts...
well last night we chilled at my friends party and played some beer pong and flip cup, she had gotten a bit buzzed, came back to my place to switch cars but went up to use the bathroom, and found her hiding in my bed...

i told her get out.. she just stuck her tongue out at me, so i hopd in bed and we talked for a lil and she ended up playful fighting and ****, i wasnt going to take it anywhere because i dont prey on the drunk. so i told her get up im taken u home.. but really y would she do this and spend so much time with me if she is in as much love as she says she is in with her b/f in iraq
 

Mavrick

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I think you should have some respect for the guy in Iraq and leave her alone. She should respect him, too. I hope she's not going to mess around on him with you or anyone else. Show this man some f'ing respect and leave her alone.
 

AgentRice

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Trust me Im not gunna let anything happen between us. it very easily could have.. even though dude was trying to hook up with her while she was with me.. and thats y i dumped her.

she keeps coming to me.. wanting to hang out and ****.. so its like wtf?
 

AgentRice

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shes the one that wants me to tell her shes beautiful and hug her and **** and hold her. she says oh i love him but its just so hard blah blah... they were dating for a week b4 he left to go to iraq too...
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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