Korrupt
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In my opinion if a girl rejects my kiss the date's immediately over and there's not gonna be a second unless she chases after me.
Thoughts?
Thoughts?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Thoughts on "I don't kiss on the first date" girls?
- Thread starter Korrupt
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Ringleader41
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It means you failed at gaming her
Deadly_Ripped
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I agree with 49au. I've never had a really good date end with "I never kiss on the first date." I have, however, had really bad dates where the girl didn't want to kiss me or I didn't want to kiss her...49au said:That's a really bad sign...
There has to be some kind of sexuality established, kissing on the first date is the absolute minimum.
At this point in my life if a girl doesn't kiss on the first date then she's either not interested, too religious, or she's not sexually open-minded/comfortable enough for me to date her.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Wow. You really expect them to chase you? If she rejected your kiss its because she's not ready and you need to create more attraction. By ending the date all you're accomplishing is giving the more persistant guy a chance. And for what? because that scared little voice inside told you to leave? ("She rejected my kiss?! I'll show her!").
When you offer someone a glass of water, they're likely to reject it on the first offer, they'll probably accept it on the second, most people accept it on the third try. Everyone, even those who are not thirsty, will accept a glass of water on your fourth offer just to not give a bad impression.
Same thing applies here. Treat your kiss like a glass of water, she's the one that's winning, but at the same time, she probably doesn't want to appear like she really wants it.
Its all part of the game, and you can't win if you quit on your first failure.
When you offer someone a glass of water, they're likely to reject it on the first offer, they'll probably accept it on the second, most people accept it on the third try. Everyone, even those who are not thirsty, will accept a glass of water on your fourth offer just to not give a bad impression.
Same thing applies here. Treat your kiss like a glass of water, she's the one that's winning, but at the same time, she probably doesn't want to appear like she really wants it.
Its all part of the game, and you can't win if you quit on your first failure.
escaleraroyal
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if she doesnt kiss you u should force her to kiss you and she will be submissive
Ace_Magnamus
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girls become the "I don't kiss on the first date girls" to they guys they have no interest or attraction for. they don't want to kiss them. on the previous date they were making out with the last guy.
Not true. On average, girls will reject my first 2 even 3 attempts at kissing before we start making out. Even girls whom I've had sex with have rejected my kisses at the beginning.Ace_Magnamus said:girls become the "I don't kiss on the first date girls" to they guys they have no interest or attraction for. they don't want to kiss them. on the previous date they were making out with the last guy.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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What I said is true. A girl rejects a guy's kiss because she is not attracted to him or is not interested. That usually ends it for them. If some guys are able to get more dates they can like you say you did. most guys dont because I dated girls who were making out with me wouldnt kiss another date because they didnt want to because they werent interested in them. they also didn't get another date with them.r0cky said:Not true. On average, girls will reject my first 2 even 3 attempts at kissing before we start making out. Even girls whom I've had sex with have rejected my kisses at the beginning.