I’m going on a little tangent here, but one of the biggest pieces of evidence that internet dating advice is often passed down by people who are not actively dating and/or are not using critical thinking is the obsession with, “Meet me on [day I have no idea if she’s free] at [X time I have no idea if she’s free].”
The original purpose of that approach was for situations where you already had plans and were simply going down a list of prospects on your phone to see who wanted to join you. If one woman said no, you moved on to the next. If someone said yes, great. If nobody could make it, you were still going anyway. It was never intended to be some magical technique for securing a date with a specific woman.
I agree. There is a place for this^.
But the way I originally read it, it sounded like OP randomly asked her out on a date with a specific day/time in mind; without knowing if she'd be available...and when he found out she wasn't available and wasn't going to change her pre-planned activities for him..sounded like he was thinking about charging her to the game.
He provided more context though, and I understand now.
If your goal is actually to meet a particular woman, then ignoring the fact that she has her own schedule is just dumb. I also think about all the old-school field reports where guys got lucky pulling that off, then acted like it was a universal method. They expected every man to be able to “lock in” a specific woman for a specific day and time, without even knowing her schedule, and then treated it like a reliable strategy instead of a situational outcome without context.
Yeah, you have to respect other people's plans.
That's why I never randomly call people; I text first...to see if you are available, and THEN I call.
People could be at work, sleep, or just plan
don't feel like talking..and I don't like infringing upon anyone.
That's just me
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