"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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Oh, I love Scarlett Johansson. She's been funny on Saturday Night Live. And she looks sexy as hell in a red wig as the Black Widow (in Iron Man 2, and the upcoming Avengers movie). Seems like with a name like Scarlett she should have red hair anyway.samspade said:
What scares me is this obsession with celebrities. Girls being in love with total douchebags. I fear the day when Clooney runs for president.
Do you think Hillary gets wet having conference with Ahmaniejad - total badguy?
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No, she knows that he isn't that powerful. The mainstream media plays it up like he's the leader of their country, the hildabeast knows better.DanelMadr said:
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Men and women....though women do it to a greater extent.samspade said:
I think we all know that lard ass who's always wearing some famous athlete's jersey and has every single stat of the best players memorized. This guy couldn't even manage a push up let alone play a sport. But that doesn't stop him from knowing more about sports than the ESPN sportscasters who at least get paid for their knowledge.