Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
She seems like a nice girl, she will probably be more attractive (to me at least) if she has a good personality.stuka1939 said:
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
fresh_to_death said:I'm not attracted to her whatsoever, but I'd still stick it in her pooper just because she is W/H proportionate, holding a beer, and you just never know if she could rock your meat.
It's hard to judge because not much of her body is showing. Her first pic was mostly her face and it was 5-6. This pic looks much better. And if she has a decent body, smooth nice skin, etc., I could see her being maybe a 6-7.5. Not enough info..stuka1939 said:Christ, you guys are picky. Here is another one of her. I don't personally know this girl, but she is on the friends list of a girl I know.
http://i255.photobucket.com/albums/hh140/stuka8739/n43906197_30993558_1641.jpg
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I'm not saying she is ugly based on some scale. She is a lovely looking girl, just not my cup of tea.stuka1939 said:Christ, you guys are picky. Here is another one of her. I don't personally know this girl, but she is on the friends list of a girl I know.
http://i255.photobucket.com/albums/hh140/stuka8739/n43906197_30993558_1641.jpg
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Thats because the site itself has brainwashed them into thinking they actually deserve hot chicks. Most of these dudes shouldn't be with anything better than a 4.Bible_Belt said:Did you see the Miss America thread where most guys said that she was a 7 or 8? Sosuave is hard to please.
Stuka1939 _ said:What about rating guys? IMO Colin Farrell is an easy 8 because he has a lot of scruff, but the Matt Damon is a perfect 10 because he's smaller and I can imagine doing lots of things to him - willing or unwilling.
That was a joke right? btw I'd say that the girl in this thread was a 7 and miss America was an 8.5 at most and that's not being too picky I'd be more than happy with an 8.5 I'm just saying that there are many hotter girls out there.Stuka1939 _ said:What about rating guys? IMO Colin Farrell is an easy 8 because he has a lot of scruff, but the Matt Damon is a perfect 10 because he's smaller and I can imagine doing lots of things to him - willing or unwilling.
Absolutely fcking inspirational man, you deserve a pat on the back. Kudos to you.ValleyDJing said:Thats because the site itself has brainwashed them into thinking they actually deserve hot chicks. Most of these dudes shouldn't be with anything better than a 4.
Stuka1939 _ said:What about rating guys? IMO Colin Farrell is an easy 8 because he has a lot of scruff, but the Matt Damon is a perfect 10 because he's smaller and I can imagine doing lots of things to him - willing or unwilling.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.