You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
She seems like a nice girl, she will probably be more attractive (to me at least) if she has a good personality.stuka1939 said:
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
fresh_to_death said:I'm not attracted to her whatsoever, but I'd still stick it in her pooper just because she is W/H proportionate, holding a beer, and you just never know if she could rock your meat.
It's hard to judge because not much of her body is showing. Her first pic was mostly her face and it was 5-6. This pic looks much better. And if she has a decent body, smooth nice skin, etc., I could see her being maybe a 6-7.5. Not enough info..stuka1939 said:Christ, you guys are picky. Here is another one of her. I don't personally know this girl, but she is on the friends list of a girl I know.
http://i255.photobucket.com/albums/hh140/stuka8739/n43906197_30993558_1641.jpg
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I'm not saying she is ugly based on some scale. She is a lovely looking girl, just not my cup of tea.stuka1939 said:Christ, you guys are picky. Here is another one of her. I don't personally know this girl, but she is on the friends list of a girl I know.
http://i255.photobucket.com/albums/hh140/stuka8739/n43906197_30993558_1641.jpg
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Thats because the site itself has brainwashed them into thinking they actually deserve hot chicks. Most of these dudes shouldn't be with anything better than a 4.Bible_Belt said:Did you see the Miss America thread where most guys said that she was a 7 or 8? Sosuave is hard to please.
Stuka1939 _ said:What about rating guys? IMO Colin Farrell is an easy 8 because he has a lot of scruff, but the Matt Damon is a perfect 10 because he's smaller and I can imagine doing lots of things to him - willing or unwilling.
That was a joke right? btw I'd say that the girl in this thread was a 7 and miss America was an 8.5 at most and that's not being too picky I'd be more than happy with an 8.5 I'm just saying that there are many hotter girls out there.Stuka1939 _ said:What about rating guys? IMO Colin Farrell is an easy 8 because he has a lot of scruff, but the Matt Damon is a perfect 10 because he's smaller and I can imagine doing lots of things to him - willing or unwilling.
Absolutely fcking inspirational man, you deserve a pat on the back. Kudos to you.ValleyDJing said:Thats because the site itself has brainwashed them into thinking they actually deserve hot chicks. Most of these dudes shouldn't be with anything better than a 4.
Stuka1939 _ said:What about rating guys? IMO Colin Farrell is an easy 8 because he has a lot of scruff, but the Matt Damon is a perfect 10 because he's smaller and I can imagine doing lots of things to him - willing or unwilling.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.