"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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This teen angst thing goes away, right?

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It's really detrimental to my game.
I can't even control it. It just happens. Stupid hormones.
Anyway, when does it end? lol
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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That's too ****ing long!
 

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For me closer to 30-31, lol.

It ends when you realize that the world is not against you and everyone is not hating on you or judging you, it only feels that way because you're so caught up in your own life, and judging yourself, you think others are caught up in your life and judging you as well.

None of it's true. People are concerned with themselves.
 

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hey once you turn 30, you just don't care what people think of you anymore and you say what you want to , and you do what you want to.
no regrets, no surrender!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Well I suppose as a 17 year old the idea of the world being against me is supposed to be normal, but a year's worth of exposure to David DeAngelo's seminars and reading sites like these has caused me to think otherwise.

Thank God that my brain is still in the developmental stages, so once I mature I won't have as many problems "re-wiring" my social and mental behavior like you older guys.
 

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resistnance is the cause of all suffering. accept whatever feelings you have. don't fall into the trap of waiting for them to be gone tomorrow, becaue tomororw never comes. breath into the feelings, and experiences them. accept them for what they are. Accept YOU for who you are. you will always be changing, always be growing and learning. you will never ever GET THERE becasue there is no THERE. there is only HERE, and there is only NOW.

Acceptance is key. Breath deeply, accept who you are and how you feel.
 

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taiyuu_otoko said:
resistnance is the cause of all suffering. accept whatever feelings you have. don't fall into the trap of waiting for them to be gone tomorrow, becaue tomororw never comes. breath into the feelings, and experiences them. accept them for what they are. Accept YOU for who you are. you will always be changing, always be growing and learning. you will never ever GET THERE becasue there is no THERE. there is only HERE, and there is only NOW.

Acceptance is key. Breath deeply, accept who you are and how you feel.
golden !
 

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taiyuu_otoko said:
resistnance is the cause of all suffering. accept whatever feelings you have. don't fall into the trap of waiting for them to be gone tomorrow, becaue tomororw never comes. breath into the feelings, and experiences them. accept them for what they are. Accept YOU for who you are. you will always be changing, always be growing and learning. you will never ever GET THERE becasue there is no THERE. there is only HERE, and there is only NOW.

Acceptance is key. Breath deeply, accept who you are and how you feel.
Oh. Well, I'm not having much trouble with accepting myself anymore, so I guess that I don't have teen angst. lol

I actually think I'm hot **** :)
 

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Ditto both of Vice's posts ;)
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Vice said:
Thank God that my brain is still in the developmental stages, so once I mature I won't have as many problems "re-wiring" my social and mental behavior like you older guys.
gee thanks :p
 
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