"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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This teen angst thing goes away, right?

Vice

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It's really detrimental to my game.
I can't even control it. It just happens. Stupid hormones.
Anyway, when does it end? lol
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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That's too ****ing long!
 

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For me closer to 30-31, lol.

It ends when you realize that the world is not against you and everyone is not hating on you or judging you, it only feels that way because you're so caught up in your own life, and judging yourself, you think others are caught up in your life and judging you as well.

None of it's true. People are concerned with themselves.
 

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hey once you turn 30, you just don't care what people think of you anymore and you say what you want to , and you do what you want to.
no regrets, no surrender!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Well I suppose as a 17 year old the idea of the world being against me is supposed to be normal, but a year's worth of exposure to David DeAngelo's seminars and reading sites like these has caused me to think otherwise.

Thank God that my brain is still in the developmental stages, so once I mature I won't have as many problems "re-wiring" my social and mental behavior like you older guys.
 

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resistnance is the cause of all suffering. accept whatever feelings you have. don't fall into the trap of waiting for them to be gone tomorrow, becaue tomororw never comes. breath into the feelings, and experiences them. accept them for what they are. Accept YOU for who you are. you will always be changing, always be growing and learning. you will never ever GET THERE becasue there is no THERE. there is only HERE, and there is only NOW.

Acceptance is key. Breath deeply, accept who you are and how you feel.
 

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taiyuu_otoko said:
resistnance is the cause of all suffering. accept whatever feelings you have. don't fall into the trap of waiting for them to be gone tomorrow, becaue tomororw never comes. breath into the feelings, and experiences them. accept them for what they are. Accept YOU for who you are. you will always be changing, always be growing and learning. you will never ever GET THERE becasue there is no THERE. there is only HERE, and there is only NOW.

Acceptance is key. Breath deeply, accept who you are and how you feel.
golden !
 

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taiyuu_otoko said:
resistnance is the cause of all suffering. accept whatever feelings you have. don't fall into the trap of waiting for them to be gone tomorrow, becaue tomororw never comes. breath into the feelings, and experiences them. accept them for what they are. Accept YOU for who you are. you will always be changing, always be growing and learning. you will never ever GET THERE becasue there is no THERE. there is only HERE, and there is only NOW.

Acceptance is key. Breath deeply, accept who you are and how you feel.
Oh. Well, I'm not having much trouble with accepting myself anymore, so I guess that I don't have teen angst. lol

I actually think I'm hot **** :)
 

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Ditto both of Vice's posts ;)
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Vice said:
Thank God that my brain is still in the developmental stages, so once I mature I won't have as many problems "re-wiring" my social and mental behavior like you older guys.
gee thanks :p
 
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