"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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This situation just seems a little odd to me...

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So I made plans last night to take a girl I've been seeing for a couple weeks out to dinner tonight for her birthday.

At about noon today she texts me saying: "Ah I decided Id rather just go to a movie tonight with u"

I didn't reply and about thirty minutes later she texted me again saying: "Mm its up to you tho"

I don't know why she wouldn't want to go to dinner with me and it's bothering me a little bit. I really don't want to be a **** and drag her to dinner when she isn't really interested. And I don't want to see a movie because we saw one together on friday, i have no clue why she would want to see another one two days later. Hell, i don't even know how to respond to this...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Its her bday, take her to the god damm movie and quit over analyzing everything. Who ever said women behave rationally? Why are you expecting her to behave rationally?

Just be glad she's not bailing on you to hang with her friends or swinging on another branch.
 
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Have you made a move yet? Because, that's probably what she's waiting for.
 
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Stéphane said:
Have you made a move yet? Because, that's probably what she's waiting for.
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lol, I've made plenty of moves and nearly all of them have been well received.

MacAvoy said:
Its her bday, take her to the god damm movie and quit over analyzing everything. Who ever said women behave rationally? Why are you expecting her to behave rationally?

Just be glad she's not bailing on you to hang with her friends or swinging on another branch.
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It's not the fact that she changed the plans, but that she wants to see a movie again, two days after we just saw one. I'm almost picking up a vibe that she is trying to get out of hanging out at all tonight...
 
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do waht she said

forget dinner, take her to see a movie.

if anything be happy shes not making u take her to dinner too. some girls are dinner wh0res and just try to get free dinners

this shows she doesnt expect a lot from you
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Blackhole105 said:
It's not the fact that she changed the plans, but that she wants to see a movie again, two days after we just saw one. ...
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Oh no, she wants to see 2 movies in the same week, OH NO the world is ending, she's gonna leave me ....
 
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MacAvoy said:
Oh no, she wants to see 2 movies in the same week, OH NO the world is ending, she's gonna leave me ....
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eh, you're probably right, I'm overanalysing. I'll go tonight and see what happens
 
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perhaps she likes to keep low key on her birthday without any waiter coming over to sing some lame happy birthday song.
she really seems to have high interest, as she is getting in touch with you now trying to go cuddle up at a movie.
let us know how it goes:)
 
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