"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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This situation just seems a little odd to me...

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So I made plans last night to take a girl I've been seeing for a couple weeks out to dinner tonight for her birthday.

At about noon today she texts me saying: "Ah I decided Id rather just go to a movie tonight with u"

I didn't reply and about thirty minutes later she texted me again saying: "Mm its up to you tho"

I don't know why she wouldn't want to go to dinner with me and it's bothering me a little bit. I really don't want to be a **** and drag her to dinner when she isn't really interested. And I don't want to see a movie because we saw one together on friday, i have no clue why she would want to see another one two days later. Hell, i don't even know how to respond to this...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Its her bday, take her to the god damm movie and quit over analyzing everything. Who ever said women behave rationally? Why are you expecting her to behave rationally?

Just be glad she's not bailing on you to hang with her friends or swinging on another branch.
 
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Have you made a move yet? Because, that's probably what she's waiting for.
 
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Stéphane said:
Have you made a move yet? Because, that's probably what she's waiting for.
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lol, I've made plenty of moves and nearly all of them have been well received.

MacAvoy said:
Its her bday, take her to the god damm movie and quit over analyzing everything. Who ever said women behave rationally? Why are you expecting her to behave rationally?

Just be glad she's not bailing on you to hang with her friends or swinging on another branch.
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It's not the fact that she changed the plans, but that she wants to see a movie again, two days after we just saw one. I'm almost picking up a vibe that she is trying to get out of hanging out at all tonight...
 
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do waht she said

forget dinner, take her to see a movie.

if anything be happy shes not making u take her to dinner too. some girls are dinner wh0res and just try to get free dinners

this shows she doesnt expect a lot from you
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Blackhole105 said:
It's not the fact that she changed the plans, but that she wants to see a movie again, two days after we just saw one. ...
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Oh no, she wants to see 2 movies in the same week, OH NO the world is ending, she's gonna leave me ....
 
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MacAvoy said:
Oh no, she wants to see 2 movies in the same week, OH NO the world is ending, she's gonna leave me ....
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eh, you're probably right, I'm overanalysing. I'll go tonight and see what happens
 
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perhaps she likes to keep low key on her birthday without any waiter coming over to sing some lame happy birthday song.
she really seems to have high interest, as she is getting in touch with you now trying to go cuddle up at a movie.
let us know how it goes:)
 
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