Ringleader41
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Im a mess now and I over think more shvt and its driving me crazy
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
This site phvcked me up
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
foreverAFC
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this site kicked my nihilism into overdrive.
JohnChops
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thats what happens when you first start out. If you overanalyze then stop doing it . Fvck over thinking just dont do it
thechallenger
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why oh why didnt i take the blue pill
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
the blue pill is for pussies lol
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Not cynical enough. You reach a point where you don't even give a fvck anymore and it's fantastic. I feel so good and so positive.foreverAFC said:
You kind of go full circle. Hard to explain.
Well if you took the blue pill, you would be dependent on the other blue pill with your ugly ass ho gf/wife/whatever.thechallenger said:
thechallenger
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wouldnt have it any other way!
Scars
Master Don Juan
The red pill will drive you nuts until you reach enlightenment. It's not an easy road either.
As for OP, it happens. I've had to take many breaks from this site and PUA in general. To be honest, that's where I learned most of my lessons. I made mistakes, but I learned from them. The PUA community offers a lot of advice, but don't take everything too seriously. Do what feels comfortable, and if you fail, realize what you did wrong and try a few things out until you get it right. Not all of us men are the same, and not all woman are the same. There really are no defined rules. The only one rule I'd say is definite is be a man. That means not taking any sh!t, and doing what you want. And yes, by doing what you want sometimes means breaking the rules. Don't let this site drive you nuts. The information can be overwhelming at times, but we're all learning. I'm not Buddhist or metaphysical at all, but I like the analogy. We're all working to reach the same place, but we all have different roads to get there. Find and develop your own style, it only happens through trial and error. Not trying to add any more pressure on you, but it's a must. Don't think so much, even if it means making a few mistakes and breaking some rules. It's a lot better to think about "what did I do wrong?" then it is to think about "why didn't I even make a move?". Feel me?
-Scars
As for OP, it happens. I've had to take many breaks from this site and PUA in general. To be honest, that's where I learned most of my lessons. I made mistakes, but I learned from them. The PUA community offers a lot of advice, but don't take everything too seriously. Do what feels comfortable, and if you fail, realize what you did wrong and try a few things out until you get it right. Not all of us men are the same, and not all woman are the same. There really are no defined rules. The only one rule I'd say is definite is be a man. That means not taking any sh!t, and doing what you want. And yes, by doing what you want sometimes means breaking the rules. Don't let this site drive you nuts. The information can be overwhelming at times, but we're all learning. I'm not Buddhist or metaphysical at all, but I like the analogy. We're all working to reach the same place, but we all have different roads to get there. Find and develop your own style, it only happens through trial and error. Not trying to add any more pressure on you, but it's a must. Don't think so much, even if it means making a few mistakes and breaking some rules. It's a lot better to think about "what did I do wrong?" then it is to think about "why didn't I even make a move?". Feel me?
-Scars