Ringleader41
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Im a mess now and I over think more shvt and its driving me crazy
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
This site phvcked me up
- Thread starter Ringleader41
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
foreverAFC
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this site kicked my nihilism into overdrive.
JohnChops
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thats what happens when you first start out. If you overanalyze then stop doing it . Fvck over thinking just dont do it
thechallenger
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why oh why didnt i take the blue pill
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
the blue pill is for pussies lol
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Not cynical enough. You reach a point where you don't even give a fvck anymore and it's fantastic. I feel so good and so positive.foreverAFC said:
You kind of go full circle. Hard to explain.
Well if you took the blue pill, you would be dependent on the other blue pill with your ugly ass ho gf/wife/whatever.thechallenger said:
thechallenger
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wouldnt have it any other way!
Scars
Master Don Juan
The red pill will drive you nuts until you reach enlightenment. It's not an easy road either.
As for OP, it happens. I've had to take many breaks from this site and PUA in general. To be honest, that's where I learned most of my lessons. I made mistakes, but I learned from them. The PUA community offers a lot of advice, but don't take everything too seriously. Do what feels comfortable, and if you fail, realize what you did wrong and try a few things out until you get it right. Not all of us men are the same, and not all woman are the same. There really are no defined rules. The only one rule I'd say is definite is be a man. That means not taking any sh!t, and doing what you want. And yes, by doing what you want sometimes means breaking the rules. Don't let this site drive you nuts. The information can be overwhelming at times, but we're all learning. I'm not Buddhist or metaphysical at all, but I like the analogy. We're all working to reach the same place, but we all have different roads to get there. Find and develop your own style, it only happens through trial and error. Not trying to add any more pressure on you, but it's a must. Don't think so much, even if it means making a few mistakes and breaking some rules. It's a lot better to think about "what did I do wrong?" then it is to think about "why didn't I even make a move?". Feel me?
-Scars
As for OP, it happens. I've had to take many breaks from this site and PUA in general. To be honest, that's where I learned most of my lessons. I made mistakes, but I learned from them. The PUA community offers a lot of advice, but don't take everything too seriously. Do what feels comfortable, and if you fail, realize what you did wrong and try a few things out until you get it right. Not all of us men are the same, and not all woman are the same. There really are no defined rules. The only one rule I'd say is definite is be a man. That means not taking any sh!t, and doing what you want. And yes, by doing what you want sometimes means breaking the rules. Don't let this site drive you nuts. The information can be overwhelming at times, but we're all learning. I'm not Buddhist or metaphysical at all, but I like the analogy. We're all working to reach the same place, but we all have different roads to get there. Find and develop your own style, it only happens through trial and error. Not trying to add any more pressure on you, but it's a must. Don't think so much, even if it means making a few mistakes and breaking some rules. It's a lot better to think about "what did I do wrong?" then it is to think about "why didn't I even make a move?". Feel me?
-Scars