penkitten
Master Don Juan
heh, they dont even discriminate on which gender you are here 
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
There might be one or two brothers writing in dialect, (silly young high schoolers trying to be 'fly') and the rest of us type in standard English, so there's no way you'd know unless it's mentioned.Originally posted by Alpine
I see a lot of threads about 'pimpin ma wheels' and bling bling snoopdoggyidiot v (insert some black boxers name) in da hud.
So I assume there are quite a lot of black guys on here but I haven't got a clue what they are saying.![]()
So I'm curious, what were you doing that seemed as if it were geared for white people?Originally posted by bfl
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But i was just curious, although the few times ive remembered to used this techniques they have worked most of the time.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Originally posted by Alpine
I see a lot of threads about 'pimpin ma wheels' and bling bling snoopdoggyidiot v (insert some black boxers name) in da hud.
So I assume there are quite a lot of black guys on here but I haven't got a clue what they are saying.![]()
Exactly. There was one thread in particular I remember that got closed called "Black DJ's". It was a good thread but it got locked for some reason.Originally posted by TheInfamousCBear
Nah....There were a couple that had no flaming in them, and the discussion was good cause people were asking questions and they were getting answered, and then they got closed...All well, aint nothing....
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.