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Attila the Hun

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This girl has ok looks, and I know her from school. So she keeps asking me if I liked her friend (and to rate her from 1-10), and then kept asking me if I liked these other girls from the school we go to.

(I rated her friend a 5) not on looks (because she was ok) but I dodn't want to look like I thought her friend wass hot, and I was horny (as a matter of fact... I wasn't)

I said no to all of them (she gave about 5 names) because I seriously don't like them.

Now I think she thinks I'm gay or sumtin'.... Not to mention it was pissing me off with her asking these straight out stupid personal questions. Do you like her? Why not?


"**** OFF BVTCH" is what I was thinking. She also said something around, "Your not cool", when I left. I do have popular friends, but they are guys. We talk about sports music etc. I'm pretty funny In some of my classes, but all my friends are GUYS. So Around girls I'm just quiet, I don't say anything so I don't look like a fool.

Anyways the reason I fell like **** is because I think she thinks i'm gay (cause I said no to all her "do you like her" questions) and the not cool comment. I shouldn't let this get to me....but I can't help it.

Couple days later she'll probably tell her friends.. and I'll look like a complete dousche bag.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

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Who gives a fcuk what she thinks or tells her friends. Read the bible, upper right corner of the forum.
 

Attila the Hun

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Originally posted by blienk
Who gives a fcuk what she thinks or tells her friends. Read the bible, upper right corner of the forum.
I won't be one of those people on this board that say, I'm a lost cause.But I used to come here way back, and read through the whole bible once. But I never do any of the sh*t they say to do. (It's my own fault)


But how the **** do I fix this? I need some "well mastered" DJ in my area...to give me frequent kicks in the ass about this. Otherwise I'm afraid that like before I'll keep reading the bible, but not have the nuts to do jack.
 

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This surely indicates that she's interested in you. Or one of her friends is. Or whoever. She's just playing of course, but this questioning is not about testing you, it's more about of getting to know your "taste" in women. By doing this, she indirectly asks your opinion 'bout her [pretty likely, but I may be wrong of course].
I recently had this to pass this kinda fun trial in some party, where one girl was maybe even to keen to get to know some thing about me. Especially "Which one of us is most beautiful? Which one do you like most?" and so on...
Nothing funny at all. ;)
This is where sarcasm steps in.
 

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Originally posted by UniqueSoul
This surely indicates that she's interested in you. Or one of her friends is. Or whoever. She's just playing of course, but this questioning is not about testing you, it's more about of getting to know your "taste" in women. By doing this, she indirectly asks your opinion 'bout her [pretty likely, but I may be wrong of course].
I recently had this to pass this kinda fun trial in some party, where one girl was maybe even to keen to get to know some thing about me. Especially "Which one of us is most beautiful? Which one do you like most?" and so on...
Nothing funny at all. ;)
This is where sarcasm steps in.
She showed me a bunch of pics of her friends... she asked if I had a GF. I said no. Then asked if I wanted a hook up with any of them (her friends) I said no (I didn't just say "NO!" but you get the drift)

She went through her lil "collection" asking "does she looks good?"


She even showed me HER photo ID pic, and was like "Sexy, ay?" <<-- something like that.


I said yes/yea :rolleyes: (Although she is pretty okay), but I think she knew I was sarcastic..


Anyways... I know a lot of the knowledge about DJING, but am too ****ing scared ****less, and being a little p*ssy of a mother to do sh*t. And it pisses me off. :(
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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One more thing before I go off crying like a lil ***** :p is that she wrote on these napkins "I'm with stupid" (which I turned around so the arrow pointed at her. She aslo wrote "Kiss my ass bi7ch"

And ALSO wrote "Go suck HER cok/dik" (the HER being the girl's friend)

I'm serious...

Anyways I just kinda brushed these napkins off the desk, and she said "could you pick it up" (I give a funny look) She's: "hehe, no seriously my belly button hurts", I go "And you think I care"

Then she says "Your a *****"


Maybe I'm missing something here... :confused:

I fell like **** though because maybe she wrote go "suck her dik" because I didn't say "yes" to her potential "hookups" (and thinks I'm gay)


and upon leaving said "Your not cool!" I dont know if it was at me or someone else.... but yea.. The problems of a newb :(
 

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Usually these girls, that insult you or whatever, actually do like you and have a IL in you. Their just too scared to do anything, cause you can appear as tall as the clouds. They think by insulting you in theri messed up heads, that that's their way of saying "I like you". Personally, I'd stay away from them. I'm not the type to get involved in those girls, because I'm looking for that, a girl, not a masculine man in a girls body.
 

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well I dont know how old you are, but this is the kinda **** you done before, like in primary school. She loves you so asks you about her m8s, just go for it, so what if you screw up.


btw i found that if you r8 a girls friends, you really have to make them 6/7 or they never speak to you again and they all have their own opinions so its really hard. Or you could make them all like 3/4s and then make her like a 9/10. Shell argue, then just quantify that its a scale with 1 at the top and 10 at the bottom. Get in some teasing, excuses for playful Kino.
 

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So when she's gonna start it all over again, be very creative and comment all the girls and photos and stuff in a manner that she would see you're "not the one to be ****ed with", to say it briefly and roughly.
If you reall want her to **** the hell off, don't be afraid to make your remarks 'bout the way each of them look pretty, let's say, concluding. Don't be too hard, but get into details, like "damn, please excuse my attitude, but this make-up is terrible. The lighting is pretty messed up, too. It makes her eyes look like a psycotic killer. And this kinda smile deforms her lips in a way that I'm having doubts if she haven't had a lip-correction-operation."
And so on. This example looks a bit pathetic, but what's important--- you gotta make up your mind pretty certain 'bout your reaction to whatever she does, and when you do that, it'll be a lot easier to show it- all the sarcasm, ironic look on what the **** is she doing and whatever.
Even at gunpoint and even if you're sometimes silent when being with girls.
Cos if you don't want to have anykinda business with her, your opinion should be important only to you. Be polite, but SHOW your opinion.
But if you do, ...
 

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I'm not really after this girl, but she does have nice legs/body. I would f*ck her any day.

We are seniors in HS.... it's just the fact that this really brouth my confidence down, that i'm a shy little *****, can't express myself, and this name calling....


There was another guy there too though, she took more to him (I don't really care though/alright maybe i was a lil jeleous)

But I'm not after this girl in a relationship. To tell you the truth i don't want a relationship, I am stil building my foundations for confidence for example working out to have a nice body, and strength training. another thing is when she wrote "kiss my ass *****" I took it seriously! I don't mean i kissed it, but i was offended thinking she didn't like me, and this was a way for her to tell me.... i take things too seriously... I htink i should have said "you wish, *****!"


Any other suggestions, I'm feeling pretty down right now... :eek:
 
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Hey im a relative of the Huns, and Atilla was cool as hell, my grandad is Hungarian, does your name mean anything or not?
 

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Originally posted by OneByOne
Hey im a relative of the Huns, and Atilla was cool as hell, my grandad is Hungarian, does your name mean anything or not?
He was a leader amongst the Hungarians long ago. I am hungarian. But on topic again, does anyone have an idea/experienced this before.

I am down right now, and can't stop thinkin' bout the situation... maybe I should sleep on it..:mad:
 

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Originally posted by Attila the Hun
But how the **** do I fix this? I need some "well mastered" DJ in my area...to give me frequent kicks in the ass about this. Otherwise I'm afraid that like before I'll keep reading the bible, but not have the nuts to do jack.
No, you don't need a well mastered DJ in your area (which is where, exactly?). You just need to start approaching people and making friends - high school is the easiest place to DJ, you just have to do it a little differently than in the real world.
 

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Originally posted by Porky
No, you don't need a well mastered DJ in your area (which is where, exactly?). You just need to start approaching people and making friends - high school is the easiest place to DJ, you just have to do it a little differently than in the real world.
Toronto.

Yea, but if your a p*ssy like me, you need more than just doing things differently. I'm just worried if this girl will tell her friends that she thinks I'm gay (cause I didn't prefer who she mentioned)

And why she say I'm not cool ?

And what did all that business mean about "Kiss my ass *****"

I don't care if she likes me, as long as it wasn't done for the reason that she HATES ne. I don't want word to get out on what a pvssy i am.
 

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Originally posted by Attila the Hun
I won't be one of those people on this board that say, I'm a lost cause.But I used to come here way back, and read through the whole bible once. But I never do any of the sh*t they say to do. (It's my own fault)


But how the **** do I fix this? I need some "well mastered" DJ in my area...to give me frequent kicks in the ass about this. Otherwise I'm afraid that like before I'll keep reading the bible, but not have the nuts to do jack.

You suck.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Hey man I got the same problem, girls all the time are looking at me and trying to start talk with me and for some reason i'm always serious if I try to say something I sound serious too nervous and thats if something to say comes to mind. my social skills with strangers are horrible but only with strangers.
 

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Originally posted by Attila the Hun
Toronto.

Yea, but if your a p*ssy like me, you need more than just doing things differently. I'm just worried if this girl will tell her friends that she thinks I'm gay (cause I didn't prefer who she mentioned)

And why she say I'm not cool ?

And what did all that business mean about "Kiss my ass *****"

I don't care if she likes me, as long as it wasn't done for the reason that she HATES ne. I don't want word to get out on what a pvssy i am.
Dude, you need to STOP GIVING A SH-IT RIGHT NOW. What the fcuk man, it's not a big deal. You can't be so concerned about what other people think. Let them think you're fcuking gay or a p*ssy, WHO GIVES A FCUK. You live for yourself, not them. Don't even bother to write another post on the subject because it's not worth your time or effort.
 

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So play her the hell down. She's doing the same with you. She likes you, but you show no interest in her, moreover, you seem too stubborn to interact with for her, so she's trying to get to know if she could somehow make you SHOW her something-- like what kinda guy you are. If she hasn't yet lost hope and if she reckons you could be interested in her, that's somekinda freaky way to flirt-- or should I say A WAY TO ENCOURAGE YOU TO DO SOMETHING.
If she finally saw that she has no chances in getting near you, this is how she expresses her mixed feelings towards you- dissatisfaction, frustration and hopeless sarcasm.
Oppose her. In any way you like or in any way that suits a certain situation best. Let your reactions towards this "game of her" vary.
Whatever are your true feelings, PLAY with her, cos that's the only way to make her shut tha **** up for once. Don't get into long and nervous discussions, but you have to act.

That **** is immature, but it also is the most ugly to silence.
 

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Originally posted by UniqueSoul
So play her the hell down. She's doing the same with you. She likes you, but you show no interest in her, moreover, you seem too stubborn to interact with for her, so she's trying to get to know if she could somehow make you SHOW her something-- like what kinda guy you are. If she hasn't yet lost hope and if she reckons you could be interested in her, that's somekinda freaky way to flirt-- or should I say A WAY TO ENCOURAGE YOU TO DO SOMETHING.
If she finally saw that she has no chances in getting near you, this is how she expresses her mixed feelings towards you- dissatisfaction, frustration and hopeless sarcasm.
Oppose her. In any way you like or in any way that suits a certain situation best. Let your reactions towards this "game of her" vary.
Whatever are your true feelings, PLAY with her, cos that's the only way to make her shut tha **** up for once. Don't get into long and nervous discussions, but you have to act.

That **** is immature, but it also is the most ugly to silence.

Sounds interesting... Hmm what do you mean play with her.

Make her think I'm interested...and then switch everything back again? Thanks for the advice.


Also, I guess you think she lost interest, when you stated that
"that's some freaky way to flirt"
 

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