"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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this may seem odd, but i need some help

sotellme_19

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I was google searching something and I got this website, and although I am a girl and I realize this is a guy's forum, I figured you all might still be able to help me out. And if you want to ask me something, I'll definately give you my honest opinion.

My problem- I'm dating a 21 year old and he's really into me, we've been together for 6 months and he's great. The only thing is, he hasn't sealed the deal yet and had sex with me, and it's so frustrating to me because I'm doing everything I can to get him to want to. He knows I want to, he's just too scared to make the move I guess.
It might have to do with my big mouth telling him about all the guys I was with last summer, but I'm not a slut, I was just having fun with random hook ups after being with an ******* for 3 years.
I don't know, I just want to know ways to get him in the mood, and ways to boost his confidence so that he won't have to worry about being bad in bed. I'm just ready for some action, some girls don't like to admit it but hey, I don't care.

Suggestions? Or am I just being dumb and maybe he just doesn't find me attractive?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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dannyegg4575

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sotellme_19, give me a call, I'll help you out.
 

sotellme_19

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i bet you would, and believe me i feel so dumb resorting to a forum to try and get my man to have sex with me. it's probably a bad plan, just thought it couldn't hurt to try and get some eyesight from other guys who may have the same problem approaching sex.
 

dannyegg4575

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sotellme_19, a guy who doesn't want sex has serious issues. It's not you.
 

sotellme_19

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it's not that he's not up for it, he's intimidated by my track record i guess.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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scottfall

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Why cant u make the move? After yall finish up, tell him that you really enjoyed it and that normally you leave it up to the guy to initiate things and that you wont be doing it again if he dosent.
 

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that's actually a good idea. i mean i shouldnt be surprised about having to make the first move, because i have pretty much the entire relationship which makes me wonder sometimes if he's really into me or just so shy. i was hoping i wouldnt have to but i guess it's not so bad, at least i'll get what i want and im sure he won't complain.
 

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dannyegg4575 said:
sotellme_19, give me a call, I'll help you out.
You're a dumbass.

I'm with Scott's idea.
 

sotellme_19

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yeah i think scott is a smart guy, although i dont know what im going to do if i get rejected. i guess i'll deal with that when and if it happens.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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