Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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this may seem odd, but i need some help

sotellme_19

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I was google searching something and I got this website, and although I am a girl and I realize this is a guy's forum, I figured you all might still be able to help me out. And if you want to ask me something, I'll definately give you my honest opinion.

My problem- I'm dating a 21 year old and he's really into me, we've been together for 6 months and he's great. The only thing is, he hasn't sealed the deal yet and had sex with me, and it's so frustrating to me because I'm doing everything I can to get him to want to. He knows I want to, he's just too scared to make the move I guess.
It might have to do with my big mouth telling him about all the guys I was with last summer, but I'm not a slut, I was just having fun with random hook ups after being with an ******* for 3 years.
I don't know, I just want to know ways to get him in the mood, and ways to boost his confidence so that he won't have to worry about being bad in bed. I'm just ready for some action, some girls don't like to admit it but hey, I don't care.

Suggestions? Or am I just being dumb and maybe he just doesn't find me attractive?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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dannyegg4575

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sotellme_19, give me a call, I'll help you out.
 

sotellme_19

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i bet you would, and believe me i feel so dumb resorting to a forum to try and get my man to have sex with me. it's probably a bad plan, just thought it couldn't hurt to try and get some eyesight from other guys who may have the same problem approaching sex.
 

dannyegg4575

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sotellme_19, a guy who doesn't want sex has serious issues. It's not you.
 

sotellme_19

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it's not that he's not up for it, he's intimidated by my track record i guess.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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scottfall

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Why cant u make the move? After yall finish up, tell him that you really enjoyed it and that normally you leave it up to the guy to initiate things and that you wont be doing it again if he dosent.
 

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that's actually a good idea. i mean i shouldnt be surprised about having to make the first move, because i have pretty much the entire relationship which makes me wonder sometimes if he's really into me or just so shy. i was hoping i wouldnt have to but i guess it's not so bad, at least i'll get what i want and im sure he won't complain.
 

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dannyegg4575 said:
sotellme_19, give me a call, I'll help you out.
You're a dumbass.

I'm with Scott's idea.
 

sotellme_19

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yeah i think scott is a smart guy, although i dont know what im going to do if i get rejected. i guess i'll deal with that when and if it happens.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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