"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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This may be kidish but I need help

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Sup fellas. I have been a strugglin AFC for some time now, and like a strugglin AFC, I am surrounded by other AFCs as well. The guys I'm surrouned by are AFC's to the max one has never had a girlfriend yet has supper high standard. Another one, the one who gets the most girls, only lands them because of his looks but quickly scares them off cause of his personality.

Their straight up losers, (even though with my resume I shouldn't judge) but I'm trying to change my life. These guys have no drive whatsoever being on and off foodstamps, a couple go to college with me and all we do is stay in each other's room. I've tried to get them to go out but they don't want to which makes me not want too.

So I want to cut them off and just not talk to them anymore, I still like acouple of them but I don't want to be held back. But it's hard starting all over at college again; eating by yourself, trying to find parties by yourself and showing up to them by yourself. I"m not the best person at making friends for some reason. I'm not an *******, but most people usually bore me even these guys I've been around been boring me for the last year or so. I want to find a group of Dj's or just some more social guys.

So is there an advice on how to go about that or on my situation?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Gustav Yavo

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lol, how are they holding YOU back. it sounds like you are blaming them for your girl pick up problems. Everyone is in charge of themself, you think if you just change your friends your automatically just gonna get more poon? WRONG! its what you do. Plus i dont think you should just ditch your friends, they may be boring you now, but you are calling them FRIENDS for a reason, so they cant be all bad. Trust me, picking up girls is all about YOU, having more social friends or better looking, or dj friends will prolly just get in your way of becoming a dj, cause they will be the ones picking up the girls while you have your **** in you hand (although if very observant it might help you, but you dont have to have dj friends to observe dj's). Read the forums, learn the techniques and apply them in real life, its the only way to learn, dont rely on other people as a crutch.

happy hunting!
 

muscleman

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To add to what Gustav said, friends in general aren't really necessary. I know a lot of people, but no one that I hang out with on a regular basis. It would get boring, at least for me. It's also an issue of time - would you rather be out getting drunk with a bunch of dudes or (which is cool sometimes, I agree) or bonin some hb you just met?
 

Leporello

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Join some clubs or other college groups.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Tookie

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Thanks. Your right I think I am shifting blame, even if it is just a little bit I need to refocus. Becoming a DJ is a path I must walk alone I assume.
 

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Took,
how old are you. and what are your goals in life?

have you formulated and written out your Mission in life yet?

What are you doing daily to improve and build a better life for yourself?
 
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